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AIBU?

To have sold my husband's wedding ring?

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Treaclesmart · 06/02/2013 14:38

Not sure if I've just done something terrible. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and he has never worn his wedding ring for the one reason that it was too big (we went ring shopping on a hot day and i think his finger must have swollen up). He has been talking for ages about getting it changed but hasn't done anything about it, and the one time he was serious about doing it about 2 years ago he couldn't find it anywhere.
Anyway I just thought with it being valentines day next week i'd hunt it out and get it resized for him. So at considerable difficulty I tracked it down and went to the jewellers this morning. Howvere when I was there I saw some lovey titanium rings which were much more him than the big chunky gold thing he'd never really liked, and only bought because he was hot and bothered and wanted to get out of the shop. They had the right size then and there so no faffing about getting it sent away. Decided to buy one - all well and good - but then decided he didn't need to have 2 rings so called into the cash for gold shop on my way home and sold his original one (and have made myself a tenner profit!)
I don't think he'll mind. i think he'll really like his new ring and appreciate having one that fits and the thought and all, and also as we are totally skint he'll like that I haven't bankrupted myself. But feeling a bit off about selling the ring we said our vows with. Have I done something terrible???

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Juanca · 06/02/2013 15:21

I know for a fact my husband wouldn't be bothered at all, but only you know what yours will say.

lurkedtoolong · 06/02/2013 15:31

Oh good grief. Is this a reverse AIBU? If my husband sold my wedding ring without speaking to me first then said he was happy with his tenner profit then I'd stuff their new ring so far up their arse....

I think you have been VVVVU.

Treaclesmart · 06/02/2013 15:32

It's alright, I've rung him and confessed all and he was really happy about it. I do agree with everyone who said it wasn't right though. I don't think I should have done it either, definitely a moment of madness. Anyway hopefully the new one will fit (the jeweller guessed 2 sizes smaller) and he will love it and wear it....and we didn't marry in a church so no blessings to worry about.
can sell his gold clubs next!!! ha ha . ..only joking!!!

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sarahtigh · 06/02/2013 15:39

any wedding ring is worth loads more than £10 in scrap value even 9 carat which is only about 25% gold is worth quite a lot as pure gold is worth more than £1000 an ounce (28 grammes) you were done by the cash for gold people unless you are joking with £10

bigpantspam · 06/02/2013 15:39

If he had gold clubs I think I'd sell them too

nickelbabe · 06/02/2013 15:52

sarah we're assuming she meant she got £10 more than she paid for the new ring.
we hope.

44SoStartingOver · 06/02/2013 15:55

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BrendaB85 · 06/02/2013 15:55

Ask him how he would feel if you 'did'?? See how he reacts... If it's bad run to the shop and GET IT BACK!!!

diddl · 06/02/2013 15:57

Yes, I think she wrote that the money she got paid for the new ring plus 10GBP extra.

I thought that titanium rings were a fair bit cheaper than gold though tbh.

Pickles101 · 06/02/2013 16:01

Glad DH took it well! YWNBU because you obviously know your DH and that he wouldn't mind. Definitely a moment of madness though, I wouldn't do risk it myself

soontobeburns · 06/02/2013 16:02

I took the OP saying £10 profit on what she orginally paid for the gold ring. Not the new Titanium one.

But anyway hard to say but I would say YANBU. Better to have one to be worn that sitting in a drawer.

diddl · 06/02/2013 16:07

Ah yes, that makes more sense-got more money back than was paid originally.

I sold some gold recently & was astounded at what I got.

In fact when I said "really??" the chap looked again, said "oh yes you´re right" & gave me even more!

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 06/02/2013 16:08

Glad your DH is happy. I think selling the ring and getting one that he's more likely to wear is a good idea but I deffo would have checked first.

AdoraBell · 06/02/2013 17:36

Some men are very sentimental. I would have asked first, hope he's okay with it.

ClippedPhoenix · 06/02/2013 17:46

You know your DH better than anyone else so the fact that it all ended well says you did the right thing. Good for you.

He never wore it before so was hardly going to start now was he.

AdoraBell · 06/02/2013 18:13

Took me so long to get and stay on line, so what I wrote was before the update, glad your DH is happy.

And there goes my Internet again, dammit!

Sokmonsta · 06/02/2013 20:45

I wouldn't do it. Our rings were bought the night before our wedding, whatever fitted in our size. Dh has told me he wants to replace my ring as it was a) cheap and b) after just two years is very battered. But the ring I wear is the one which actually symbolises the vows we made. I told him if he wants to change it then we have to have a church blessing to make it a legitimate wedding ring as opposed to just a ring.

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