To feel sorry for DD1 being the late school year?

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Softlysoftly · 06/02/2013 12:31

DD1 was born in september making her the later school year.

We have a solid group of friends from when she was a baby who meet twice sometimes more a week. We have been onweekends away together etc so really close. She asks for her friends all the time.

From September every single one of her friends will be going to school. I will still see the mothers as we all have younger babies but DD1 will be the only older one there, no playmates.

I just feel so sad already that she'll be lonely and not understand. :(

I almost wish I could put her in school early, she is more than ready (not a boast she just is).
AIB silly about it?

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MechanicalTheatre · 06/02/2013 12:37

Look on it as a good opportunity for her to make new friends. Might prevent cliquiness (sp?) when she does get to school?

Seeline · 06/02/2013 12:40

Could she go to a pre-school/nursery a couple of times a week? THis would be good for her if she is ready for school, and would also help make new friends of her own.

lockets · 06/02/2013 12:42

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Hobbitation · 06/02/2013 12:42

Is this not UK then?

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Softlysoftly · 06/02/2013 12:56

She is in pre school for 3 sessions and enjoys it. I suppose that you may be right about trying to make new friends. Is it normal to ask kids from pre school to play if you don't know the parents?

Lockets that is the one advantage to me I just feel sorry for her!

Hobbitation yes I'm UK why would you think that?

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Hobbitation · 06/02/2013 13:04

I suppose I just see September birthdays as old in the year so they go to school earlier, but ISWYM now. DD1 has a July birthday and they did staggered intake when she started school, so she started in the January. So she had two lots of friends going off to school before her.

I would say that all kids go through this, no matter when their birthday is, if they are at pre school for more than a year. They do make new friends and get over it.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 06/02/2013 13:09

My son is a late August baby so the youngest in the year. . Personally I think it is a massive disadvantage.

Your DD will be fine and when she does start primary school will be more than ready for it.

Apanicaday · 06/02/2013 13:09

I can understand exactly why you are concerned, but children are surprisingly flexible with friendships - ds1 was 4.5 when we moved countries, so he left behind a close group of friends from his kindy there, and had to start again, in a new school year, with children who had mostly been together since nursery. I was really really worried for him, but he sailed through it with no real problems, and now has a new group of friends who he is just as happy with. I think it's one of those things that seems worse to us than it does to them. Try not to worry too much, and enjoy the extra time you get with her :)

elliejjtiny · 06/02/2013 13:10

I had the opposite problem with ds1. He was born in July and lots of his friends were born in sept/oct. FWIW he was fine. So was I, although I was a billy no mates at the school gates for a little while as I didn't know anyone, but that was partly because we don't live near the school.

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