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To find out who my real friends are?

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NickNacks · 05/02/2013 19:20

Just having a flick through my contacts list to see who I haven't spoken to in a while when I realise that there's many many people who I don't speak to unless I initiate contact.

I realise this says more about me and the sort of friend I must be but of they are trying to faze me out then let them!

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garlicblocks · 05/02/2013 19:24

No, it's just that people are terrible at staying in touch. I've got a lot worse since developing my illness but, tbh, was pretty slack beforehand as well. Thank god for Facebook - at least I can scatter a few likes and comments around to let people know I'm still interested in them!

I've got one friend who only ever contacts me when she wants something. I know she thinks of me as a real friend, so perhaps she hasn't noticed this. I have though! It's hard to say something about it without sounding snippy ...

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NickNacks · 05/02/2013 19:42

Thank you garlic. I know everyone's busy and life is hectic, but if you (and by you i mean people in general) can't drop a text or call once in a blue moon then they can't be very important can they? I'm mega busy too but I make it a priority because I like liked my friends a lot.

Seems I have no friends here either

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garlicblocks · 05/02/2013 19:50

Neither do I! :( Wink

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 05/02/2013 19:51

I very, very rarely phone anyone. But when my friend, who lives a 9 hour train journey away, had a crisis with her ex, I was with her the next day. And stayed for nearly three weeks, until the crisis was over.

Does that count?

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NickNacks · 05/02/2013 19:59

It does count oldlady ! I have friends who I don't speak to very often but when we do it's like we've never been apart. Difference is though that they initiate contact to me too. Some people never make the first move though and I feel too needy being the only one to start off a conversation.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 05/02/2013 20:05

We do chat on FB quite a lot, I just hate making phone calls. And her life is much busier and complicated than mine, so I worry that I'd be intruding.

There must be a middle way!

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NickNacks · 05/02/2013 20:30

I think you should call! :)

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NickNacks · 05/02/2013 20:31

Or text? I love a surprise text.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 05/02/2013 21:05

I used my mobile so infrequently the battery is flat, and I have no idea where the charger is. Blush

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