To be astounded at the Fuckwit

[bamboozled]

So, terrible back pain for weeks, being sent for an urgent
MRI this evening to check I don't have an abscess on my spine but obviously need to sort out the children..
I phone XDH, who isn't working, living in his squillion pound house, although he can only contribute £200 a month for his kids to ask him to please pick them up from school and have them for the night as I don't know what's going to happen and you know what he says
LET ME JUST CHECK MY DIARY .....
AIBU [to want to tell him to Fxxx right off!]

YANBU. What a cock.

But surely he needs to check his diary before he says yes. I don't get why you're angry about that.

Because he doesn't work, I'm being sent to hospital for an MRI, dont know if Im being admitted for the night and school pick up is in 60 mins - surely the point is, you collect the children from school and juggle it after that...

Ah, got it now, not just a sensible check, but a piss-take. In that case YANBU. He is indeed a cock

I'm going to hate myself for saying this but could they not do the scan tomorrow to give him a but more notice if its been bad for a while?

Oh I didn't realise he was being sarcastic, sorry (I told u I would hate myself haha)

Why should the op put off the scan? He doesn't really need to check his diary, everybody is aware of where they are in 1hours time unless he is the king or something.
yrnbu, he is a twat. Hope you get your back sorted

not to mention that he has a choice, a luxury the OP, as an actual, responsible parent, doesn't seem to get

Hope your back gets sorted very soon OP

I just suggested rescheduling because (although it does make him a twat of the highest order for not caring or trying to help if he is able) he doesn't have to drop everything if its not his agreed time.

Most normal helpful people would obviously not hesitate to help over something so serious but he is probably an ex for a reason and doesn't seem particularly synpathetic.

Sometimes it's easier just to not ask people like that for favours in the long run.

I also hope it's not serious OP and they find the cause

*sympathetic

It sounds like it will only be thrown back in OP's face if he is so unhelpful already

he is being a dick. Asking a parent to collect children is not a favour. Its something you suck up and do because they should also be first priority. Everything else should be juggled unless You are off saving the world, or as the op a medical emergency.

Thank you - I was worried that my priorities were skewed, that a possibility of a spinal abcess didn't trump watching countdown....
What a twat!!

And yes, very much an ex for a reason - arent they all!

I did think that! I wasn't trying to imply your condition wasn't serious OP I hope you know that, I just have crossed paths with a few people that sound like your ex and have found sometimes they just aren't even worth asking for anything from.

He should help you, any decent person would but then his 'diary' response indicated how he would be straight away.

Most people's response would be 'of course, I hope you get sorted' never mind a parent.

I didn't think you meant that at all Bambio! I agree, I wouldn't ever ask him for a favour - as it's written in a little book (literally) and thrown bank at me. What a weirdo.. I just naively thought this time would be different - as the saying goes - that'll learn me!

He sounds dreadful and it sounds like you are well shot (from what I have read). I hope he actually comes through for once and you can have your scan.

It's funny, when people split there seems to be a growing trend of parents who down tools the moment the timer is up (not all but some). He will be sorry when he needs your help one day.