Argh! IABU I know I am, but I can't help it!
Ok, have NC because I'm a bit embarrassed to admit this. I don't have many friends, just through circumstance my friends groups have moved on/away from uni and then jobs (as you do) while I stayed in the same city. Despite being scattered across the bloody globe we keep in touch but obviously don't get to see each other really anymore, aside from the occasional arranged-well-in-advance-get-together. I miss having close friends to hang out with and go on nights out with.
My DP is from the city we live in and so has a lot of friends and acquaintances, some of which go back to childhood. He's also in a band here, so knows lots of people through that. His friends are amazing wonderful people who have welcomed me with open arms, and we all get in brilliantly. I love that we share a big friendship group but there's just a teeny bit of me that sometimes feels they'll always be 'his' friends more than 'my' friends. I am trying hard to make more friends of my own to balance that out.
The other day my DP and friends were at an event for a shared interest/hobby they have so I was home alone, I normally don't mind this but I really wanted a night out myself. However, as my friend groups have all moved away and my current friends were at this thing there was no one to go out with! I posted on Facebook that I was bored and a guy we both know through the band stuff replied that he was too. We chatted for a bit and eventually I suggested we go out to my surprise he agreed. I was quite chuffed at myself for organising a night out myself and was actually really looking forward to going out and meeting new people. We went out, my DP and friends came and met us later after their thing and we all had a really good night out, I really enjoyed it and we arranged to hang out again. I was quite chuffed at myself for making a new friend.
Today this guy messaged my boyfriend to ask if he wanted to join their band, as their current drummer has quit on them. My DP went down tonight to jam with them, really enjoyed it and is now in the band. I'm genuinely pleased for him, they're a really good band, really nice guys and I know my DP will enjoy having more chances to gig. That said I am a bit miffed that as soon as I might be making a new friend my bloody DP is in there again! There's nothing to stop me still being friends with this guy, I'm still hanging out with him later this week as planned, but being in a band together they'll naturally spend way more time together and get to know each other better. Any time I see him will now probably be in a group scenario with the rest of the guys .
I feel like he's stealing my friend! I know IABmassivelyU and tomorrow I'll get over it, but tonight I feel a little bit sad that I made the effort to make a new friend and now he's not :( IABU aren't I?