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To want a different midwife next time around?

9 replies

MamaBear17 · 03/02/2013 20:03

When I was 41 weeks pregnant I had a sweep at my doctors surgery by the midwife. I was already two centimetres dilated, having been in what she called 'slow labour'. When I got home I started to bleed heavily so went into hospital to get checked out. The bleeding was nothing to worry about - she had aggravated the place where I had an eptropian a few years before. However, they monitored by blood pressure and tightenings for half and hour whilst I was there- long story short, they discovered my blood pressure was dangerously high and I had protieninurea. It turned out my bp had been dangerously high for several weeks, but my midwife hadn't acted on it because she took my bp twice - once at the beginning of the appointment, where she dithered about how high it was, at then at the end of the appointment whilst I was lying down. The second measurement showed that it had come down a little bit so she put it down to the fact that I had walked up some steep steps to get to her office and decided that it was nothing to worry about. I was admitted for an induction because the nurses said it was too dangerous for me to wait to go into labour naturally. They gave me medication and the sister on the ward was so cross that I hadn't been sent in earlier she told me she would be making a phone call. I went into labour during the night, before they could induce me, but had to be monitored throughout so I couldn't move around or have a water birth. It was horrible being strapped to the bed and my dd got into distress. A theatre was on standby for an emergency c-section and I was told to have an epidural just in case they needed to get me into theatre fast. Luckily, due to the fantastic care I received from the staff at the hospital, I delivered my dd naturally and she and I were fine. The thing is, I really feel like I have no confidence in the midwife at my GP's surgery now. I am thinking of trying for a second baby, but I really do not want her as my midwife. She is the only one at my surgery. Is there anyway I could have access to a different midwife, or will I have to change surgeries?

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CailinDana · 03/02/2013 20:27

YANBU at all. Did you put in a complaint? Contact the Supervisor of Midwives when the time comes (are you currently pregnant?) explain the situation and they should be able to sort you out.

elizaregina · 03/02/2013 20:33

Mama

Dont stress, it shouldnt be a big deal at all to change MW. I was in tears after seeing the MW atmy new surgery - they were shocked when I said I couldnt see her again as she was a matron or something!!

Anyway I was able to use the MW only at my old surgery but still keep my usual docs.

I found our trust was extremly helpful infact in making sure I was able to to do this. And yes of course put in a complaint.

Flisspaps · 03/02/2013 20:36

Absolutely contact the Supervisor of Midwives as and when the time comes for you to need antenatal care, and say that you do not want to see this MW. There will be other locations where you can see a MW, or other MWs who are available, even if it means having all your AN appointments at the hospital.

Best of luck with no 2:)

Arithmeticulous · 03/02/2013 20:36

You can write to the Supervisor of Midwives and state you will not accept care from a particular midwife. Happens a lot with homebirths after MW does a lot of scaremongering but might be on call for birth.

MamaBear17 · 03/02/2013 20:56

Thank you. Not sure when exactly when no 2 will be on the cards but we are starting to talk about it. Im probably being silly to worry about it but I do not want to see that midwife again. I really appreciate the advice.

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Erimentha · 03/02/2013 21:03

YANBU when (hopefully) I have another baby I do not want to see the Midwife at my drs surgery, she was rude and unprofessional on several occasions and I'd rather see no midwife at all than have to see her.

FloraPost · 03/02/2013 21:38

YANBU. The midwife at our GP surgery is a witch and was dreadful in several ways during my 1st pregnancy. This time round I said straight off at my booking appt I wasn't prepared to see her and they gave me details of other local clinics I could attend, no questions asked.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/02/2013 21:59

My first midwife was lovely but unfortunately missed the fact that dd was the wrong way round. Didn't notice that her heartbeat was stronger the other side. Then didn't notice that my epidural had run out as they tried to deliver my back to back baby. Cue emergency cs for me and an absolutely horrible time during which I found it incredibly hard to bond with my baby. Couldn't breastfeed, found it all really hard.

Good job I'd forgotten all about her by the time I had dd2, who's birth by comparison was natural and fast and a breeze!

JohnBender88 · 04/02/2013 16:06

She may be part of a team of Community Midwives so I'm sure you could request another.

I had no problem with my midwife apart from her insistance that my symptoms were normal. I had a discharge for the last few weeks and she never checked it out, just said it was normal.

My daughter was in neonatal for 2 weeks with an infection she picked up during labour, most likely from me. I will definitely be more assertive if we decide to have another baby.

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