to think I am a bitch who doesn't deserve to be happy?

[WoundByAKey]

Me and my ex broke up in October, he was the one who broke up with me. I started dating someone in very late December.

He's a fantastic guy, so nice and caring and I have a good time with him.

Yet now my ex is in a new relationship and I cannot stop obsessing over it. I ended up deleting him off facebook as the things he would write about his new relationship were just too ott. The final straw came when they both ended up putting kissing photos of the them as their profile photos after just 2 weeks together.

Why can I not be as happy and have moved on like he has? I really like the guy I'm with, so why am I obsessing about my exs relationship?

I hate myself so much.

A guy you cared about dumped you three months ago and is posting photos of himself being all kissy-faced with his new girlfriend and you think you're a bitch because it makes you feel bad???

YABU!

You were right to delete him off of Facebook. It's not obsessive to want to do that.

Now, if you're driving past his house every day or something, then you're obsessing and that's bad.

Well done for deleting him, he sounds like a right twat.

It will still hurt though. You are moving on but he hurt you and that doesn't get magically fixed just because you don't want him any more.

Fwiw I think you've done the right thing deleting him. I just deleted someone and it is so for the best. You do not need to torture yourself with things you know will hurt you. What the eye doesn't see, the heart really doesn't grieve after. Even a day after I've done it I feel better. Only did it yesterday.

You do deserve to be happy. Give it time and you will stop caring so much, but right now it is normal it is still hurtful.

You're not a bitch - it took me ages (and ignoring a close pal) to 'get over' my ex. Even when I was with someone new. I think it was a good 18 months or so. Even now (6 years later, new OH, new baby!) I still sometimes look at his FB and think 'what if'. But then I look at my amazing life now, and know that it would've never been possible had I stayed with the ex.

It is very very difficult to see another woman in the position that you used to be in. It's good that you've removed his FB for now, at least you won't have constant reminders.

Were you together a long time?

How long were you with your ex?

October's not that long ago, it's bound to be a bit odd seeing him with someone else.

You shouldn't hate yourself for it, and I haven't seen anything which makes me think you're a 'bitch' or you deserve to be unhappy.

You've moved on within a month to new fella.

Well done for deleting him but clearly you're not over him & how lovely the new man is doesn't change that unfortunately.

October to late December is not a long time, give yourself space to get over the ex then move on.

I just worry that I'm using the new guy, even though I do like him. We aren't officially girlfriend and boyfriend yet.

My ex wrote, wow I don't remember the last time I was this happy. And I just burst into tears reading it.

I just can't stop wondering how he can be this happy after 2 weeks. To the point where it wouldn't even surprise me if they got engaged.

Because they look so happy with each other.

To be fair, it sounds as though he's over-compensating and even if he's not, he sounds a bit 'gushy' and annoying.
Of course you're likely to still be hurt, you're still in the process of moving on... Just relax and enjoy being with the new guy, try not to overthink things too much, one day you'll suddenly realise you are over the old one

If you feel you're using the new guy you probably are, sorry.

Spend some time on your own, forget about the ex-have you got a good mate to help you through this?