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AIBU?

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WIBU to get off the bus?

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 20:56

Very trivial, and I can't see what else I could've done tbh, but still feel bad.

Was on the bus, nearly home, after a LONG day out for a family birthday with DS who is nearly 2. After his normal bedtime (7.30ish). Despite 2 long train journeys and several bus journeys he was behaving pretty impeccably for an exhausted nearly-2 year old. I had given him a pack of mini biscuits to tide him over the last 10 minutes.

We stood up to get off the bus and literally as it stopped it jolted us forward a bit, emptying the remaining biscuits (maybe 8-10 + a couple of halves) on the floor of the bus by the door, as they opened.

I kicked as many as I could off as we got off and shouted an apology to the driver, but we did get some quite loud and pointed tutting and sighing.

I am normally the kind of person who wouldn't dream of littering but I don't know what else I could have done? Stayed on, missed our stop to kneel down and pick them up?

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Sirzy · 02/02/2013 20:59

If it was by the door couldn't you have said to the driver "can you wait a minute while I pick them up?" It would have only taken seconds.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/02/2013 21:00

Don't give it another moment's thought, it's not worth it. These things happen.
Let the grumpy bus buggers tut and sigh all they want. I'm sure they get worse things on the night buses when all the party revellers are puking!

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 21:03

Sirzy he was busy with the people getting on, I seriously doubt he would've heard or registered what I was saying. Busy London double decker.

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AgentZigzag · 02/02/2013 21:04

They'll get eaten by the local drunkards wildlife, so not littering as such IMO.

Couldn't you have picked them up after you'd got off the bus though?

floweryblue · 02/02/2013 21:04

It was an accident. If I was a fellow passenger, waiting for you to clear up would have made me much more snarly.

Sirzy · 02/02/2013 21:05

Im confused, if people were still getting onto the bus why didn't you have time to get them?

Not worth making a fuss over though, hardly the end of the world!

wannabedomesticgoddess · 02/02/2013 21:07

Its a few biscuits. The buses will get brushed out whether the biscuits were there or not.

Dont waste another moment thinking about this :)

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 21:08

Agent - the biscuits I am stressed about were the ones on the bus... !

Ho - good point! I know it's a totally trivial thing but it just upset me after a lovely day out and DS behaving brilliantly all day.

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wannabedreams · 02/02/2013 21:09

I really wouldn't worry about this :)

KobayashiMaru · 02/02/2013 21:09

The bus will get cleaned at night anyway, a few biscuits make no difference to anyone. It's not like you chucked them down on purpose. Forget about it.

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 21:12

Sirzy - couple of people getting on, only us getting off, the bus couldn't have been stopped for more than a minute total. It was pretty busy too so I really doubt he'd have heard. DS was walking with me - no reins or buggy - so couldn't really let go of him safely either especially with the doors wide open.

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 02/02/2013 21:12

But this had nothing to do with DSs behaviour. It was an accident

KatyTheCleaningLady · 02/02/2013 21:12

You had an oopsie. Happens to everybody. A couple of biscuits won't hurt anything.

AgentZigzag · 02/02/2013 21:13

Ahhh, I see what you mean, I thought you'd just kicked them all off.

What kind of biscuit were they - just out of interest

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 21:14

Anyway I will try to take to heart the MN consensus of not dwelling on it!

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 21:17

domesticgoddess yes, absolutely, it was my fault if anyone's! Just meant he had behaved so well and up til then I was in a really good mood because we'd had a lovely day and the journey was going surprisingly swimmingly (compared to some we've done!).

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/02/2013 21:17

Mmm, all this talk of is making me peckish.

Off to raid the cupboards!

landofsoapandglory · 02/02/2013 21:18

If you had tipped the biscuits out on purpose you would have been out of order, but your little boy accidentally dropped them and there wasn't an opportunity to pick them up. It's a non issue really. Forget about it, don't feel bad.

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VinegarDrinker · 02/02/2013 21:19

Agent haha - I shouldn't have admitted to feeding my toddler biscuits, should I! Luckily for MN they were overpriced and still full of sugar those little alphabet Organix ones. (Obviously I only let him eat each one after he correctly identifies the letter and sounds it out phonetically)

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Rainbowinthesky · 02/02/2013 21:20

I think you'd have peeved the driver and others had you delayed the bus to sweep up a few biscuit crumbs. Don't give it a thought.

FannyBazaar · 02/02/2013 21:20

A similar thing happened to me recently, my DS was managed to spill buttered corn all over a bus, we were trying to come down the stairs while it was stopped then it moved suddenly and he flew down tipping the corn out. Some bossy old woman started pointing out to me that someone might slip, so I attempted to clean it up with a napkin while consoling shocked DS. As I tried to clean it she butted in and said 'Just leave it, it doesn't matter', then I stopped and she said again 'someone might slip on that'. When I bent down to try to get more up, she asked if this was my stop but I obviously couldn't see out the window while trying to clean the floor! The old lady was really lucky I didn't throw the corn at her, I was obviously in a lose/lose situation.

I got off feeling really bad about the still messy bus but when I realised it only had two stops to go before it reached the terminal, I felt better. Shit happens and quite frankly, I have seen far worse thinks spilt on a bus.

McNewPants2013 · 02/02/2013 21:21

It was a few biscuits dropped by accident don't dwell on it.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/02/2013 21:22

I saw a woman spit on the bus last year. I was too scared to say anything though as she looked rather intimidating.

< wimp>

AgentZigzag · 02/02/2013 21:23

I might be wrong, but you saying 'up til then I was in a really good mood because we'd had a lovely day and the journey was going surprisingly swimmingly (compared to some we've done!)' makes it seem you couldn't believe you could have an event free day just to enjoy it for what it was, and are kind of looking for something to focus on that wasn't quite right about it.

Because it was such a small thing to feel anxious about, not enough to put you off kilter or change your good mood, or to be thinking about it an hour odd afterwards.

Are you quite an anxious person?

mrsbunnylove · 02/02/2013 21:24

op, you did fine. its amazing you tried to kick any of the mini thingys off the bus at all. with an overtired toddler after travelling far, you deserve to be cut some slack.

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