To suggest he gets snipped?

[fedupwithdeployment]

I have re-posted to see if I get any(!) responses in AIBU.

I have been on the pill for years (probably about 20) and have had no problems with it at all. I am 42, have 2 children and don't want to have any more....occasionally I have suggested to DH that he might get snipped, but he hasn't done anything about it. As I am happy on the pill, I haven't pressed the point.

But, have just been to Dr to pick up repeat prescription, and although they gave it to me, they clearly thought I should be considering other options because of the risk factors.

My weight is fine (63kg) for my height (165cm).
My bood pressure is excellent (don't ask me what, but low side of normal).
I have never smoked.
My Dad does have heart issues, but is overweight.
My mother died of cancer (smoking related).

What do you think? Happy to be told IABU and I should carry on popping pills, but equally happy to be told that it is now DH's turn.

YANBU to suggest it seriously and see what he says!

If he dosent want to,he won't. You could always stop talking the pill and use condoms.

YANBU to ask but it is down to him to decide. Could you try mirena coil?

I'd be interested to see the opinions here as "me too"

I am 39 and have been on the pill since I was 17 (with a break for babies). Have two children now at primary school, no desire for more.

Not overweight, bp fine, not a smoker. But when I last went for repeat prescription the Doctor started making noises about me being too old.

I have suggested snipping, he is (I think) broadly in favour, but if I leave it to him he'd be happy for me to keep on popping those pills.

I have told him I'll take it for another year.

I do not want a coil, thanks. Husband doesn't like condoms. But if I'm not taking the pill and he hasn't got round to snipping then it's down to a choice between condoms or no sex.

I am 42, have 2 children and don't want to have any more

take control of your body and get sterilised

Have a look at Essure. Worked for me, and no GA or stitches. I'm pleased with it.

YANBU. That long screwing with your hormonal levels can't be good...

Holly - interesting suggestion. I hadn't considered that as an option.

I think you can ask, but like HollyBerryBush says, you also have the choice to be sterilised too. I wouldn't give my partner a hard time if he declined to have it done. But if he is happy with taking that responsibility for your family and health then good, it's a simple surgical procedure for a man.

I'd have a talk with him and see how he feels, if he is dead set against the snip then I would seriously consider sterilisation, I've only got the one DC so am on the pill just now but after my family is complete I will happily get sterilised myself so I can stop filling myself with hormones.

Sounds like you've done your bit to me so can't hurt to discuss it.

I agree with Holly as usual

Discuss it with him but if he doesn't want to do it, get yourself sterilised.

I think you need to have a discussion between both of you an discuss and research all the options available to you, including sterilisation. I would 100% expect him to seriously consider a vascectomy among the options though, and not just immediately dismiss it out of hand. He had to take equal responsibility to you. That is also assuing you equally consider it. Weigh up the risks/benefits of each and come to your conclusion.

Just to say, Essure is sterilisation, but with no op. I suppose I am quite evangelical about it cos I thought there must be something better than hormones or operations, googled, and there was.

I don't work for them, but wish it was more widely known about.