AIBU to ask dh to sleep at home after night out...

[NettletonMummy]

As I don't like being left alone overnight as we have a very young baby (8 weeks) plus 3 year old. Happy for him to go out and come back late, but is it unreasonable to ask him to come home after, rather than stay with a friend? He doesn't want to come home as we live in the middle if nowhere, so either expensive taxi ride if he has a drink, or he has to drive. I know he doesn't normally do much in the way of child care, but he's there for the 3 year old in case she wakes while I deal with baby who feeds at least 3 times a night and I need the moral support even if he's just asleep!

I don't think I'm asking too much - especially as mums have to pretty much give up going out at night and having a drink while pregnant and breast feeding.

Nettle - if you want him home he should respect your wishes. After all, he's getting a night out...have you had one recently?

YANBU op

i am the same

but you will be told YABU

i think if its an occasional thing, its up to him if he wants to stay out, assuming hes not a child.
Itd be nice if he was respectful of what you wanted to though. Its not an unreasonable request, but not a demand

I'm afraid I'm also of the opinion that with such a young baby, I wouldn't expect my DH to announce that he wanted to go out clubbing or on a bender and certainly would not expect this to e a regular occurrence. How old is he, 18?

But then we are old gits.

YABU IMO.
Doesn't sound like he'd be much use to you at home anyway. He is a grown up and allowed to relax and have a few drinks. You're bfing, no chance of you being able to spend the night away for a while. But that's your choice.

And you being PG and BFing is no reason for him not to go out and have a good time. You could find ways around it if you wanted to go out.

For the most part I do understand your reasons (although I don't agree with them) but the last part sounds martyrish.

Nope am afraid he would have to come home. No arguments about it.