AIBU to get involved? (WARNING - Not majorly serious)

[HungryHippo89]

So, what I want to know is do I have a point?

OH is joint bestman for his friends wedding. They have organised the stag do (which is fine). They are going abroad (again also fine). My problem is the cost - I have done a fair bit of research for OH about where they are going and where their hotel needs to so they aren't miles away from the nightlife. I have found some fantastic deals around the £150 mark. Which i think is reasonable for where they are going/how long they are going for. I then discussed with OH and the other bestman passed them the links for the website screen shotted the flights etc so they could see for themselves and discuss with everyone else that is wanting to go. The other bestman has gone into a travel agents and asked them for a few deals, the cheapest one they could provide them with was £260. And it looks like this is the one they are going with. I just don't get it I used to work in the tourism industry so I do have a bit of noddle.
My issues -

1. When people originally agreed to go on the stag do it was based on a rough price of £130 - So how many people are going to drop out now it's increased to £260. As at least half of the guys going aren't exactly dripping with spare cash
2. To me the price is now reflecting more like what I would pay for a cheap week away instead of a few days away.
3. OH and I agreed over the next 6 months we really need to cut down on our spending.
4. He said it has nothing to do with me. Well I think it does when they asked for my help. And he is having to pay to go?
5. I have found them a better deal than what they are getting from the agents.

I'm just pissed off. And it caused a massive row. I'm sacrificing a holiday this year because he has 5 stag do's and I have the same in hen nights. But i know that my 5 hen nights won't cost as much as 2 of his stag do's nevermind the other 3.

And anyway ... when did it change to, you have to go abroad? Surely a night away somewhere in the UK is perfectly acceptable.

He doesn't actually HAVE to go abroad. He is choosing to.

In My Day it was a night down the pub. [oldfart]

Why on earth aren't they going with the deal you found?

I don't really understand why they aren't going with the cheaper deal you sourced? Don't they like the hotel or location? Anyway, YANBU to think it is too expensive in comparison. However, YABU to have 5 hen nights and 5 stag trips in one year! Think I'd rather have a holiday.

You and DH need to agree how much you can realistically afford to spend on these events and stick to it.

because they are too bloody lazy to organise flights and accomodation seperately.

I know he is choosing to go abroad. It was more a case of - why does it seem to be the fashion to go abroad surely 1 night away in the same country is perfectly acceptable...

wineandroses - My hen nights are exactly that ... hen nights - like just a night out. Only one of them is needing overnight accomodation. And i don't spend a lot on nights out (I'm a drink smuggler take a few little bottles of wine out with me and a half sized bottle of vodka and drink it with soda water).

It just pisses me off i bet at least 2 out of these 5 we are going on will be divorced and re-married in the next 6 years anyway!

Can you agree the total budget for the stags/hens? Then halve it and each of you spends it how you like. So that would get you out of this argument.
(and then when he spends all his budget on the first 3, he won't be able to make the others...)

I wonder is the other best man after saying something like "I see HungryHippo is keeping her hands on the pursestrings" and instead of saying that he had asked you for advice on the bookings, he's now feeling silly.
(if this is the case he's an eejit!)

You always get a short break cheaper on the internet, your DH should put his foot down on this one.

Why is he not doing so, that is the issue.

I reckon they should go on a lovely spa day

Yanbu - they are being ridiculous - if it's laziness can you not just do the booking bit with your dh ?

YANBU about the stag do cost, annoying that they didn't go with the cheaper option you found. I bet they also have a drinks kitty that will add more £££ to the cost.

However YABU to say half the weddings you are going to will probably fail. I know you have statistics on your side there but it's a bit of a mean thought before they've even walked down the aisle!

why cant your dh book his own accomodation and meet them every day night??

i went abroad for 3 nights last june to my friends wedding, cost about £1600 for me, my dd (7) and my mum and it wasnt a close a friend either!, so £230 doesnt seem that much to me for weekend abroad!