It is my birthday at the end of February and so I sent a text around to my friendship group and ended the text saying that partners were welcome too.
Everyone text back but one, and most could make it. I randomly by chance bumped into the friend who hadn't text me back a couple of days later and she brought up my birthday straight away saying she hadn't text back (I hadn't mentioned it btw) but she was unsure as to whether it was suitable for her baby.
No it's not suitable, it's a gambling environment where people will be drinking. But surprisingly I didn't plan my birthday to make it 8mo appropriate.
We are also hiring a car/minibus to take us as it's around 40 minutes away with little traffic. So I'd feel obliged to leave early if she wanted to leave as she might not be able to pay for a taxi home by herself.
And I feel a baby would completely change the dynamic of the event too.
I might sound selfish but if she said I can't come because I don't feel comfortable leaving baby at home then I would be fine with that and would never hold it against her.
I just think sometimes as parents we sadly have to miss out on some social events even if we really want to go.