Ok, I'm back, I've had a more thorough (if not indepth) read and I am not quite shitting a brick as big as the one I was before.
My DP works full-time in a low paying job which he may well lose on Monday due to budget cuts and restructuring (council employee).
I work part-time as a waitress. We receive WTC and did get childcare element to cover some of DS's 2 3-hour nursery slots last year until I had a bout of ill health and my hours were cut. These help us survive. They do not pay for us to have a flashy car; but for my DP's petrol to get to work. They don't pay for meals out, but for meals on the table at home. They buy my son's shoes and clothes and keep our heating on. We do not have prospects of holidays, university, or owning our own home at any point in the near future.
I have a degree and yes, I have chosen a low-paying job in order to provide motherly care to my DS in his first few years. I could have worked 90-hour-a-week internships for god knows how long with the hope of somehow getting a fairly-paid advertising job. As a Pregnant single (advertising creatives work in pairs, not romantically single) applicant I can guarantee there would have been better, easier applicants every day of the week. SO I got an immediately paying and flexible job instead.
My are currently between 10-13 whereas they were between 16-25 before i got ill. This means that the childcare element (for which both parents must work over 16 hours a week) was cut and we are struggling to find it, however DS loves nursery and I do not want to deny him it now he has settled in
Hopefully the hours will rise again at some point. I have said to my boss that at some point I would like to work more (30-40 hours) and would put DS in childcare to fit around lunchtime shift; but it would obviously need to be set shifts and arranged to fit around childcare. She is very accommodating as she has young kids of her own, but the hours just aren't there without her taking them from someone else, and is understandably wary of me getting ill again. Shifts are generally announced a week or 10 days before you might be working them, sometimes less, as is the case in most low paid jobs. And the days you work depend on the days they are expecting to be busy, which depends on the whim of the customers and when they book! Regularly I am asked to go in early, stay late etc. It is only a small restaurant so a change in bookings can mean a change in hours at very short notice. And I like my job and like to be accommodating, within reason. So much of this is just unfeasible to someone with un-confirmed shifts like mine.
I would not take another job if that would put my prospects of getting more hours at my current job in jepoardy - it seems I will not be required to phew.
"Advisers will also take into account other benefits of the claimant?s current employment, especially those that are particularly relevant to the claimant?s circumstances, before imposing any requirement to take an alternative job, for example, we would consider whether someone with caring responsibilities had the right to work flexibly. We will in due course provide more detailed guidance on how this will operate in practice."
I have to say this paragraph from one of the documents linked fills me with a sense of dread. It makes me think, OK, I can probably reason my way out of this if it is not feasable for me. I am educated, I know how to access relevant information, I have a brain in my head, and am good at verbal and written communication. What about someone in my position without the ability with words that I have? Will they be able to make the same case conherently? What about that last sentence? Can they post legislation without having all these details sorted? O.O
Considering the amount of people falsely claiming benefits with no will or desire to work, ever, I find it shocking that the gov't that said they would make this 'impossible'; while taking care not to 'lose the middle classes in the restructuring'; will be taking from hardworking parents in this way. Although, if it all came to the crunch, If my partner keeps his job then I would have to take the option of turning down the benefits. My job keeps me sane...
Sorry for the essay. This will probably roll around my head all night. It is confusing and I hope it all turns out ... not as bad...