To want my sister to have a planned C-section (bad birth story attached)

[CsectionAndSister]

I have name changed for this.

My sister nearly lost her life while pregnant with my neice. She had slight bleeding and was on the maternity unit for it when she suddenly hemorrhaged and she had to be put to sleep in order to have an emergency c-section. My neice was born at 32 weeks and thank god she hasn't had any heath problems due to being born premuture. Due to the ce-section and her DD being on Sbcu she didn't get to touch or look at her DD until over 20 hours.

It was lucky she was in hospital as if she wasn't she would of bleed to death.

My sister is now 14 weeks pregnant and she want a Vbac.

I am scared so much for her.

Its for the doctors and your sister to decide isnt it?

With the best will in the world, it's not your choice to make. I suspect your sister is in just a good a place as you to weigh up the pros and cons and she's done it.

I hope you haven't been saying this to your sister?

I have not said anything to her.

Please don't say anything to your sister. In all honesty this isn't about you, your sister will be feeling scared too and will need your support. Just be there for her. The doctors know what they are doing.

I understand your terror but I'm sure the doctors would consider the probability of this happening again.

Fwiw I had a missed miscarriage at 12 week scan. Waited until things happenednaturally at 14 Weeks. I had a massive bleed, stuck clots, they had to fight very very hard to stop the loss. I was managed carefully with dd1 & 2 with no repetition of the bleeding. All was well so a previous haemorrhage doesn't meanit will happen again.

I just hope everything will be alright this time, but don't stop me worring.

She is going to be very heavily monitored during this pregnancy, so I hope she doesn't have to go through this again

I understand you're frightened for her, but firstly these things don't always happen again, and secondly, she must be frightened herself. If she has decided she wants to try for a VBAC, all you can do is support her in that. Like you say, she will be monitored heavily, she will have good antenatal care.

So she wasn't actually in labour when she hemorraged? I bled heavily during my pg with ds2. Luckily it wasn't life threatening. I didn't bleed during any of my other pg (pg with ds5, elcs booked for tomorrow) she may have no problems this time.

If you are worried about the nc fail ask mnhq to remove the posts.

It might not help to know but csections don't stop haemorrhage because there is more chance of bleeding if you have that tendency.

Just support your sister and do your own research on vbac after a bleed to reassure yourself.

Ds3 was born at 32 weeks due to premature rupture of membranes. I had an emcs under general due to cord prolapse. Didn't see the baby properly until 24 hours later.

It's hard, so is dragging yourself to nicu after having major ab surgery. Do you think your sister might be worried about having an early birth and how difficult it is after a cs?

I know I was this time, although i was at high risk of preterm birth. I only decided against vbac in the last week because I'm 38 weeks now so the baby should be fine. If he had been early I wanted a vbac so I could get to the nicu easier. She may change her mind later into the pg