...to worry that OH hasnt really changed his drinking habits?

[twinklestar2]

Last year I spent up until August having a go at my husband about his drinking. He would drink around 3 times a week, drink 7-8 cans of beer at home and then every Friday night with friends in the pub.

We had major rows which came to a head in August when I came home from a night out and he'd drunk 2 bottles of wine and a can of beer and he was BLOTTO :(

We talked and talked and managed to get past it. OH stopped the over drinking at home but still went on stag dos, weddings, etc (where he would get drunk) and would have a few at home occasionally but never 7/8 like before.

We did dry January up until Tuesday when we went out and met friends. We both had a few drinks, he had maybe 6-7, I had around 5. We both felt so crappy the next day, we're not used to it anymore!

We are out again on Sat night with his friends and he has agreed to only have 4 drinks. But the thing is, he has said he's going to have a few tomorrow night - there are 3 cans in the house - and he is going to alternate them with Becks Blue which is no alcohol beer. Why can't he just wait till Saturday night considering we went out on Tues?

AIBU to think that he hasn't really changed his drinking habits as he's still drinking 7 'drinks'? Or AIBU considering they are low alcohol beers?

We're TTC and have been for the past 19 months and his sperm analysis has come back as low morphology so cutting back on alcohol can only help?

I just don't know anymore!

Didn't you post about this before? And it was suggested that he either didn't want to TTC or actually had a problem with alcohol and needed professional help?

Regardless, YABNU.

Why are you continuing to try or a baby which someone you suspect has a drink problem?

the problem will not go away when you have a child. Most likely it will be 1000 times worse. Address that issue first, then consider having a child once things are settled

yanbu to be concerned.

You can't control his drinking, only he can do that, and it sounds like he doesn't want to as much as you do.

YANBU to worry, but I don't really have an answer about what to do about it.

What Whoknowswhocares said, to the power of 100.

You cannot control his drinking. Attempting to do so will only frustrate you and cause more problems. It sounds as if he has a drinking problem. But, there's nothing you can do about that, really.

What you can do is think long and hard about what YOU can do for YOURSELF.