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AIBU?

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Mim??

56 replies

Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 21:20

Hi I was just wanting others opinions really... I am 15 weeks pregnant and my mother in law has already decided she wants the baby to call her mim! I have never heard of this n feel it sounds too much like mum! She is quite inteferring anyway tbh so i wouldn't b surprised if she had said mum lol! She has firmly dismissed all traditional names. I am thinking of tellin her i feel really uncomfortable with it but aibu??

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feministefatale · 31/01/2013 21:21

YABU

Sirzy · 31/01/2013 21:23

Does it really matter? Chances are the baby when talking will come up with their own version/name anyway but even if not its hardly as if your child will think that she is mum simply because of the name she is called.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 31/01/2013 21:24

YANBU tto think it sounds plain silly

YABU and interferring to try to decide what the woman is allowed to be called. It'll be her name not yours.

pictish · 31/01/2013 21:25

What does it matter really?

AKissIsNotAContract · 31/01/2013 21:25

Is her name Miriam?

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 21:28

Maybe! I just don't know if I'm overreacting just coz of hormones etc etc :) is it normally up to grandparents what they are called? I know the baby will know who mum is but out in public if its shouting mim or mimi to her?? I really don't know what to think?!

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 31/01/2013 21:30

Sounds utterly ridiculous, silly woman (her). But I posted a similar question on here when I had DD1 about what PIL wanted to be called and had my arse scorched!

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 21:30

No her names not Miriam! She says its just something she has made up I think! So I really av no right to say no to her?

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pictish · 31/01/2013 21:30

Although smil suggested the kids call her grandmama. I just laughed. Grin
Try laughing.

TarkaTheOtter · 31/01/2013 21:31

Your baby won't say mum for a while. Chances are first attempts will be more like mama and later it will be mummy - both quite different from mim.

Pick your battles, let her be mim if it makes her happy but stand your ground on the things that really matter.

SchroSawMargeryDaw · 31/01/2013 21:32

I actually don't think YABU, it does sound like mum.

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 21:33

Oh dear GwendolineMaryLacey not good! I've thought of loads more that I was gonna suggest but maybe it's not my place ?!

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 21:37

Very good advice to pick my battles!! I'm sure I will av a few with her over the next upcoming few months! This MIL really does think she knows best about every aspect of life n if u av a different opinion it's automatically wrong! Maybe just don't make an issue out of it b see what little one calls her itself!

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andadietcoke · 31/01/2013 22:06

I'm sure they'll call her what they want. Nieces call my MiL 'Dye-Dye'. My mum decided years ago she wanted to be Mamie (something she picked up in France I think). To me it just sounds like Mammy, but will cross that bridge when I get to it.

CatsRule · 31/01/2013 22:11

My ds shouts miiiimmm to me! I'm sure he will get mum eventually.

Anyone who is ridiculous enough to want to be called anything like mum is not worth bothering about. Why would a woman who is also a mother not see the importance of that!

I didn't care what names my mum or mil chose to be called as long as they knew mum and dad were already taken.

Oh and yanbu.

Bowlersarm · 31/01/2013 22:11

I don't think YABU but the only thing I might say in her defence is that I think both Nanny or Granny/Grandma are pretty awful. Not sure I would like either when the time comes. What about trying to come up with another name together you can agree on?

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 22:24

Yh I agree grandma n granny r a tad old fashioned, my mum is known as nana to all her other grand kids but the MIL has dismissed that too! I guess I just think off all the names she cud of made up its one vowel change away from mum :(

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 22:25

#of

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CocktailQueen · 31/01/2013 22:27

Mim - short for Amelia imo! Bizarre name for a gran... what do you think?

Vinomcstephens · 31/01/2013 22:28

My mum decided she wanted to be called Oma when her grandkids came along (not mine, my brothers). She was dead set and immovable about it - she was NOT going to be gran or nanny! 18 years and 3 grandchildren later, she's.....gran Grin

So I think the moral of my story is don't sweat it - your MIL can decide she wants to be called Most Serene Highness Of The World for all she wants - it's your DC who will make the ultimate decision!

MarilynValentine · 31/01/2013 22:28

YANBU. Call her grandmim. Silly woman.

Namely · 31/01/2013 22:34

Just let her tell your DC to call her Mim but when you refer to her call her what you want her to be called. "Grandma is coming round later" or "let's go and visit nanny." We asked our parents what they wanted to be called, luckily they went for grandma and nana!

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Linzi01 · 31/01/2013 22:38

Haha will def suggest grandmim! I suppose if myself n hubby don't refer to her as mim there will be less chance of little one picking it up! Like previous comments if first words r mum or something similar she will soon be quick enough to start claiming it as mim - just that sort of MIL unfortunately!

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fortifiedwithtea · 31/01/2013 22:41

Don't worry your DC will give her their own name and she will love it. My mum wanted to be known as Grandma but DD1 named her after a character on Fireman Sam and it stuck. Cann't tell you which because it will out me. Worse still several friends think its my mum's real name and call her it too Shock.

Catchingmockingbirds · 31/01/2013 22:41

Weird, what's wrong with gran? Mim does sound quite like mum I think.