AIBU for not knowing how to handle this situation?

[Chillyhere]

I really don't know how to deal with this situation . My four year old son is in reception , he's a young four for his age . Recently he's been getting into trouble at school for bring very silly with another boy who I gather he is copying :( apparently they are running around class , disrupting the learning and giggling with each other , calling each other poo etc etc . How would u handle this at home ..... I've spoken at length to him about it but he just gets carried away at school . I think he's very tired as he doesn't sleep well and is up at five every morning :( thank u for any advice

options:
talk to him at home (done)
bribe for good behaviourr... stickers + reward
ask the teacaher how she is going to support ds to behave. it is up to her to worrk with him in school if you have done everything you can at home.

actually, sometimes the teacher telling mum is enough to sort out the problem aas they do not think you will find out..

Yes I bribed him with all the usual stuff and gave him a massive telling off but he just fibs and denies it all to me .... I think he's just carried away !!! Thank u :)xxx

TBH, I would simply expect you to tell him that you will be very cross if you find out he has been in trouble at school again and tell him he has to be good at school.

As a teacher, I don't expect parents to sort out my classroom management issues. The teacher sounds as though she is struggling - but frankly, if she has 4 year olds running around the classroom, calling each other 'poo' and disrupting the learning then she needs to get her act in gear and sort this out.

I would ask the teacher how she plans to manage this behaviour and how you can help to reinforce this when your ds is at home.

He is 4. He is a boy. He is a 'young' 4 in his class year. I am not saying parents should not give a stuff, but I totally believe this is for the teacher to manage in class.

How do you know about it?
Is it your son or the teacher telling you?

loving how you assume the other boy is the ringleader.

Id be saying I would be asking the teacher how he has been every day and if he was misbehaving, no cartoons or similar that aftrrnoon.

:)
Are you my ds's bffl's mum?!

Either she or I could have written that op (though I would have left out the finger pointing and would bloody hope she would, too)

He's four, and very excitable. Talk to him about appropriate language, and time and place for running around.
Make sure he knows you and teacher are communicating and are onside, and follow through with consequences for certain behaviours.
And be glad he's made a good friend and is happy at school :)

Discuss it with the teacher and your DS together.

Oh I didn't mean it to sound finger pointing , the teacher informed me he was simply following , but the other boy is a lovely child and just excitable too . Thanks guys you've really helped , think I need to just reinforce my cross ness but at the end if the day it's down to the teacher to manage surely ?

Whilst it is down to the teacher to manage his behaviour at school, I do think that re-inforcing what he should be acting like there at home shows the teacher that you are supporting them.

Yes you're right but I think I need to let go a bit , I can't control his behaviour at school just reinforce it at home .

My ds is five and having similar problems with behaviour and concentration as he shares a room with ds2 who has started getting up at five.

We now have a deal that if he is good all day at school he can have a treat after dinner, like a sweet, film, out to the park, etc.

It is a slow process but it seems to be keeping him motivated most days!