DF's DH very ill - what should I do?

[monkeycrzy]

Hi. I know this is maybe not an AIBU topic but there always seems to be plenty of good advice on here.

I had some devastating news from old school friend that her DH had a serious illness. She texted me to tell me. I offered to ring if she ever needed to chat and she said she would call me this week. I can't do much else as at other end of country. This was last weekend and I am wondering if I should text her to see how she is doing.

She is one of those DF where you don't see them much but when you do it is like they have never been away.

The news has emotionally crushed me and I cannot even begin to imagine how she is coping/feeling. I feel so helpless

Any advice would be appreciated.

If she said she'll ring I can see why you might not want to push her by ringing.

I think a text would be good, if she doesn't feel up to answering they're easily put off, but it could be a lifeline at a time when she's frantically treading water.

I would text her, just saying you're thinking of her and if she needs you, just to phone.

Send that text. I'm sure it'll be good that she knows you're thinking of her and her dh.

I would keep texting her, tell she doesn't need to answer, but to let her know you're there and you're thinking of her. If you really want to speak to her send a text asking if its ok to call her today or tomorrow, and if so what time. And that you'd really like to talk to her, because she's your friend and you care about her.

Why don't you send her a nice card to say you are thinking of her and her DH. Much nicer than a text I think. That to me would be the most natural thing to do.

Thanks for all your advice. I did text... It looks like it is a terminal prognosis now :( This is so hard, why is life so unfair?

Oh no terrible news.

I think texting was the best idea.