to think that people that keep publicly declaring how happy they are in a relationship might be fooling themselves?

[LittleFootDucky]

My ex has been in his new relationship a week and is already posting photos of the dinner he has cooked his girlfriend.

Posted photos of them together, stated a million times how happy he is. Lots of hearts and kisses etc.

He not doing anything wrong. It's just from my way of thinking as I'm in a new relationship too, but you wouldn't guess that from Facebook, I don't feel the need to post photos of us or tell the Facebook world what we did at the weekend.

My friend was seeing a guy for 3 months, whilst he was still texting her and seeing her he suddenly put he was in a relationship and they are already in love and posting photos of them kissing.

If you're happy then you're happy do you need the photos and statuses to prove that? It sort of feels like they are convincing themselves that this is 'the one'

It makes me laugh when you see people saying 'I love you' a week into a new relationship.

Well yes and no really.

It makes me cringe because I am a private person but I accept that not everyone is.

Yet I do know plenty of genuinely happy couples who for reasons only known to them, choose to plaster it all over the internet.

It's kind of similar to MN where you'll find that some people list all their interests and photos on their profile...and some of us prefer to remain private.

There is no right or wrong...usually just personal preference.

I get what you mean Worra (you are a fountain of knowledge btw)

I just think a week into a new relationship and you are already displaying to everyone that you are "in love" and how amazingly happy you are just seems a little false. But that's just my view.

Knowing my luck if I did start doing that we would break up the next week and I'd end up looking a little bit stupid haha

not trying to convince themselves... trying to stake a claim. that's what I this anyhow. there is a guy I know vaguely as a player. he got into a serious relationship last year and she must have posted photos of them together, photos of their sandals next to each other on the beach, photos of their dressing gowns hanging on the back of the door... basically every day there was some little "he's mine!" desperate seeming update. which she didn't need to do as he is clearly smitten, and if he wasn't he would be shagged other women regardless of her crazy social networking.

Some people are smug.
Some people are insecure.
Some people crave approval.
Some people can't shut up about themselves.
Some people think others are way more interested in them than they really are.
Think that about covers it.

I'm guessing you know this because your ex is still on your friends list? Delete him. Whether he's really happy or not I'm sure you don't want regular updates of how their relationship is going appearing on your wall. X

Yabu. Some people just like posting stuff on Facebook, it doesn't neccesarily have anything to do with declaring relationship happiness.

It doesn't have to be false just because you are displaying it. It could be, but it could also be genuine happiness, which is a nice thing. People just do things differently. That doesn't make it wrong. But I'm like you, I wouldn't post that sort of thing just in case it all went tits up and I ended up looking like a fool.

Why have you got your ex on your FB, is it for stalking purposes?

I'm with Worra I have a friend who has been through the mill with relationships, he is the nicest guy I have ever met and has been taken advantage of more than a few times. Right now my fb newsfeed is filled with pictures of him and his new girlfriend not literally but there's a lot and we are all genuinely happy that he is happy.

On the other hand I have other friends that post each and every 'relationship' and I feel its not so true/real. I think if people have to go out of their way to tell people this amazing their lives are in general their is some insecurity at play but who knows they may fool themselves into positive thinking!

Basically.....I'm sitting on the fence

It's ok to post happy statuses on FB.

Bleurgh. Some things are better kept private. But I think people do this for verification, like they have to prove to themselves they are worthy of a relationship. I they no a lot of guys are desperate to fit in with their male friends and not feel left behind. Obviously as a woman, you'll see through this and not find the showing off very interesting. I'm with you op on this sort of public boasting being extremely tedious.

Perhaps they're just happy you miseryguts .

I like seeing people in love.

Not sure if they are fooling themselves but I know it's fucking annoying. Not so much the photos but the '

I also feel the same about the 'my children are my world' posts. Obviously if it's relevant ( Birthday, proud moment etc) then that's different but otherwise it just seems strange to me.
Ofcourse you love your children, you're supposed to. Tell them not me.

I loathe the updates (family members you know who you are) on Facebook where the couple live together - usually with one computer- and declare their love.
@I love my wifey more than anything'
'I love you more'

etc
Just talk to each other - its easier.

Personally I'm amazed at the stuff people put on the internet for all to see forevermore, but each to their own.

In the first throes of passion it's probably genuine (if banal ). I tend to think that it becomes more a case of protesting too much when a relationship has been established some time. I've often seen such public declarations a few months before a usually equally public and dramatic split.