To want another baby? ( big age gaps)

[Lily15]

We have DS 9, DD 4 and DD 21 months. I keep thinking about having another baby but we don't want to try for another year or two as we have so much going on with a new house and work.. Is it selfish of me when my son will be 11 or 12 and starting secondary school to have a new baby? He already gets frustrated with the sisters he has! Or am I over thinking this? Does anyone else have 10+ years between children??

12 years between me and my twin brothers, I've loathed them since the day they were born and my relationship with my mother took a decade to recover (we still don't get on as well as we did pre-twins).

My mother was the embodiment of how NOT to deal with a big age gap...and I didn't appreciate trying to concentrate at school with them screaming all night every night. I ended up in boarding school...at least it meant I got some sleep!

YABU. Think of the planet.