aibu for being peed off

[aibu2013111]

I want to know if iabu to be peed off about this, not said in RL just on here.

Will try and keep it brief.

Last year I booked a cheapy hol for me and ds. I have a friend who was a bit hard up so asked her if she and her 2 kids wanted to come. Asked her for a nominal amount to help with petrol and to cover the 3 extra people but still less than I paid. She said yes. Then another friend asked if she could come too with her 2 kids. Friend A and B ended up sharing and paying a fair bit less than me but fair enough they were sharing and we weren't so I had more privacy! we put money into a kitty for food and I paid the same as them even though there are only 2 of us and 3 each in their families. We all got on well.

This year I have mentioned going again. Friend A has said that she wouldn't mind sharing with me as there'd be more space and that we could split the holiday 3 ways also with the petrol. Then mentioned about putting the same in the kitty for food. Friend B hasn't gone for this at all! If we split 3 ways, friend A and B would be paying about £20 more each and me £40 less give or take. I know friend B will then expect me to put in the same in the food kitty and will be good at talking me down.

I'm half tempted not to go but we all did get on well despite this, friend B is a serial money maker, she is generous in her home with food etc but there is always a deal to be done or it's chalked up to favours, I think more often than not there is an ulterior motive which is sad but the kids get along and so do we apart from this niggle.

Any thoughts? It would be a shame not to go but I don't want this to get in the way. If we all shared the stuff out in the tents there would be more room for everyone. I think probably am bu now I've written it down.

About the food, I was going to suggest an amount per person as friend B won't split but she will be good at talking me down and I hate being tight would rather keep the peace! Friends also shared a car last year so I had all petrol costs too which is a fair amount and friend b wants me to take stuff for them as they were squashed but I doubt she'll give me anything. HELP

don't think you are, work out cost per head and take it from there.

For the sake of £20-£40 is it worth ruining the holiday or not going at all?

I don't think you're being unreasonable. like the previous poster said, work it out per head and take it from there. Can't argue with that.

no, not when its 20-40 but it is as much the principle as the money as we are all pushed for cash which friend A appreciates. It was her suggestion to split not mine. Friend B just said oh are you ok paying that then and we 6 will share!

sorry x posts with step and silver, thanks. I can't see a way round it now though as she has already told us her view!

I am thinking of not going right now as my holiday will cost with petrol but without food 200 against their 100 which pees me off as there is only 2 of us, not 3 and when it was my suggestion to start with.

nah, it should be same cost per head (adults and kids too) with perhaps a slight reduction if sharing. If one gets own space alone there should be a 'single supplement' but all other costs should be equal and travel included in the calculations. its just not fair else.

I'd just split it 3 ways equally, TBH. Presuming that they each have an extra child - but really, one extra kid doesn't eat a lot. eg - if holiday costs £300 then you pay £100 each - and then stick £50 each in the kitty for food. I appreciate that you may feel you are subsidising their extra child, but it would be less hassle than anything else IMO.

i'd be happy to pay the same into the food kitty even though my ds ate far less than theirs but it could have easily have been the other way too, that doesn't bother me but the fact that they want their cake and eat it too, literally, does bother me.

the youngest and smallest child packed away more food than any of us and certainly more than us 2 put together