to wonder why the OP often gets labelled as agressive/angry?

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I've seen on aibu people getting really quite nasty comments aimed at them (unfortunately it's just the nature of aibu) however if the OP decides to retaliate ... cue a whole load of comments like, why are you so angry OP?? You are really aggressive - glad you're not my friend.

I see aibu as a way to release stress of a certain situation, which the OP may already be worked up about anyway so they might appear angry - that doesn't make them an angry person.

And why should you just sit there silently having a load of abuse thrown at you and not retaliate without being called aggressive?

I think it often happens when the OP refuses to listen to advise or a whole raft of responses of YABU. It can be very frustrating when you give someone advice and they blatantly (as you see it) ignore it.

YANBU

It attracts a mob.

Sometimes I think they are baited by some posters who are spoiling for a fight - and once it happens it is very hard for the op to defend themselves without rising to it.

Some are angry :)

YANBU!

Yanbu. The other one I hate is when when a person is called controlling.

oh , that one is easy, the mob is so predictable,depressingly so, (best to join in with the crowd, do not single yourself out )

Accusing someone else of being angry/aggressive is a good way to goad, and is sometimes used in that way

However, some OPs are clearly spoiling for a fight themselves.

It does annoy me when people can't just understand the OP as a bit of a rant. However, ranting on MN is not something I'd do as a way of relieving stress for that very reason

Meant to say, ranting on AIBU

I think it tends to happen when someone asks AIBU? And they get the response YABU but they insist they are not. If they are so sure they're not I don't know why they ask if they're already sure they're right. It's a bit like when people go on X factor & argue with Simon cowell & say they're actually brilliant singers & he has no idea what he's talking about - and he responds by telling them more forcefully that they're wrong. X

YANBU

I think there are certain posters on here that will stick together and give the same types of replies, often quite unpleasant replies at that. Then when the OP defends themselves they get even nastier to the OP.

Because when someonesays 'AIBU??' they think they are actually totally reasonable and it is a rhetorical question. They seek validation for their actions.

Because some times people are knobs. That's both posters and the OPs.

Sometimes the ops are are aggressive or use aggressive language. Such as one the other day said 'i told her to fuck right off, lol'.

Sometimes the posters are goading.

Personally if i felt an op was being aggressive i would tell them they are coming across as aggressive. I don't see the issue. They may not actually realise or intend to come across that way.