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To go mad at DH for walking mud all over carpet

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brummiegirl1 · 30/01/2013 08:58

After washing up my husbands breakfast things this morning he comes back as he has forgotten his memory stick for work, he comes into the living room and muddy footprints all over carpet, i said to him that he had mud all over carpet and he said he had to go as he was going to be late he would sort it out later. I said you wasnt bothered about being late to have to come back(memory stick is for his college course not work)

Am IBU to have wanted him to do it now as i have to do it now or look at it all day plus have 2 young children and dont want them to walk or crawl in it.

Feel so mad at him i told him he had no respect for the house or for me.

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GlitterySkulls · 30/01/2013 09:00

i think you're being a bit ott if this is an isolated incident.

ArtVandelay · 30/01/2013 09:03

I would go crazy. Which is probably BU but I'm a bit precious about shoes off.

I would not make my DH late for work and make him clear it up. That is definatly BU but he would be made to pay in some other way :)

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brummiegirl1 · 30/01/2013 09:07

I know it was heat of the moment when i told said he should clean it up before he went which was BU but he only had slip on shoes and it wouldn't have taken 2 seconds to slip them off, they were proper footprints on carpet and i saw red especially as the memory stick wasn't an essential thing to risk being late for either.

Need to calm down and breathe lol!

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ComposHat · 30/01/2013 09:09

Unless he makes a habit of it, you seem to be massively over-reacting.

It is unreasonable to expect him to stop and start scrubbing the carpet and thus making himself late for work.

Fakebook · 30/01/2013 09:14

I'd get pissed off too. But I wouldn't try to make him clean it there and then. It's only a carpet. I'd let the mud dry a bit and then it'll flake off anyway.

Startail · 30/01/2013 09:20

Deep breath and clean it up.

Honestly haven't you ever done anything a bit daft and thoughtless when in a hurry.

In my experience men really don't realise quite how much mud their great clod hoppers bring in.

Save having a go at him for if he makes a habit of it.

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brummiegirl1 · 30/01/2013 09:26

He does do it alot, its mainly if he only has to pop into a room, why do they think that just by going in briefly that they dont have to take shoes off that are full of mud. Think i was more fed up because i saw it after tidying up the kitchen and a sink load of washing up from his breakfast making sandwiches, and this is every morning

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IrnBruChew · 30/01/2013 09:34

Ex H used to do this, he trailed tar through the hall carpet once TAR! You should have told him to crawl...

ArtVandelay · 30/01/2013 09:37

I think you should just get the DCs ready and go out - anywhere. Just leave all the mess. I recognise the 'put-upon' feeling! Even if you just take colouring books to a cafe, just get away from it!

I gave DH the job of after dinner washing up so I can excuse him his plates in the morning. Find ways to even things out that fit better with your individual schedules.

Hausfrauing is a right pain sometimes. Chin up!

TWinklyLittleStar · 30/01/2013 09:44

Ignore it, go out, let him clear up.

I would be extremely unhappy if my husband "went mad" at me for making a bit of mess in my own house.

DialsMavis · 30/01/2013 10:12

It's only a bit of mud! I would be pissed off if I was expected to clean it up and would leave it...
But if if it was an accident, DP was happy to clean it up later and I had time then I would just clean it up. We are a team and he would do the same for me

diddl · 30/01/2013 11:15

I´d also leave it for him to clean-thoughtless idiot.

Could he not have called through to you to fetch what he needed?

Or better still, taken his muddy shoes off-lazyarse!

Flobbadobs · 30/01/2013 11:19

Leave it to dry and vac it up. If this is a one off YABU its mud not dog poo.

wewereherefirst · 30/01/2013 11:23

I get really annoyed at DH wearing shoes in the house, or slippers in the garden. The fact that it's rarely them who clean up the mess they leave makes my blood boil

Go out, have fun and make sure you leave it for him to deal with!

LadyBeagleEyes · 30/01/2013 11:27

There's no point in cleaning up mud right away, it's best to let it dry and then hoover up.
It was silly and thoughtless but you are over reacting a tad.

Bogeyface · 30/01/2013 11:31

So this isnt about the mud as such, but his whole attitude of "Someone else will clear up"? And that someone else is you, so a total lack of respect?

Sallyingforth · 30/01/2013 11:37

he would sort it out later
Make sure he does!

TalkinPeace2 · 30/01/2013 11:41

Its a floor.
Not the sofa.
Floors are for walking on.

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brummiegirl1 · 30/01/2013 12:05

Bogeyface- yes that is exactly how i feel, from picking up his clothes from the floor to closing drawers and cupboards after him although only little things its all the time! So i suppose the mud although not the end of the world was the final straw this morning

Talki Peace2- Yes it is a floor so expect it to be walked on just not with shoes full of mud

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ComposHat · 30/01/2013 14:23

In the time you've spent harrumphing about it op on mumsnet you could have cleaned it up several times over.

diddl · 30/01/2013 14:30

Why is it up to OP to clean it up?

StuntGirl · 30/01/2013 14:58

Just let him clean it up tonight. And stop running round after him, what's all this closing doors for him and picking clothes up after him malarkey?

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/01/2013 15:02

My DH manages to wash his own stuff up and not tramp mud all over the floor. If he did, he certainly wouldn't expect me to clean it up. What's with all the surrendered thinking, sisters? Yes, she could clean it up but 1) why should she? and 2) he'll keep doing it if his servant is following him around with a mop.

Shinyshoes1 · 30/01/2013 15:05

I would have gone nuts but I have a strict "shoes off at the door " policy exactly for this reason

ComposHat · 31/01/2013 00:41

Because as the op stated she didn't want the children to crawl in it and to spend all day staring it and risking it getting ground further into the carpet to prove a point is stupid and petty. It wasn't if he did it as a vindictive act.

I don't know how other people's relationships work but as a couple we do stuff to help the other out and don't take minor accidents as personal affronts. I don't just vacuum my side of the bedroom or wash up the dishes I've used.

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