MIL doing my head in again!

[Nicole2781]

I'm getting married in 3 days, MIL is paying for our photographer as a gift to us which we really appreciate.
Photographer emails me the planned shot list today and all is great just what I had asked for until I see the 'additional family photos' part which has MIL and all her side of the family and her friends and no mention of my name or my side of the family.
I'm not asking for my picture to be taken with them but there's everyone on dp's side apart from me on it and seeing as its our wedding I thought stupidly she might include me in her family!
Also, why did she not ask me to put the shots she would like in an email to send myself or even ask if she could have a fucking family photoshoot at my wedding.

Just because she paid for the photographer does it mean she has the right to do that without asking myself or dp first?

I wouldn't have minded anyway if she had asked first or at least mentioned it but no she always does things for herself. Just like she has paid for our honeymoon (a short break) for our wedding present which is lovely although I feel uncomfortable with her always trying to pay for things (dp persuaded me to accept her paying) and she said the other week that the only reason she paid for it was so she would be able to have our DS while we were away!

Am I being a bit pathetic?

I think if she had ran this by me first then I wouldn't have minded its just the way she does things without asking/telling that really annoys me.

Thanks everyone for posting. I'm a lot more chilled out about it this morning.

Yes I had ordered a shot of myself with grooms parents (not that she or I will have it up on the wall!)

Well, you don´t have to have the in the album!

We had separate pics before we married-me at home, him at church & me arriving.

But after the ceremony, we´re both in all the pics.

I thought that was the point-that you are now a couple & both part of each others families.
(For the day at least...)

I'm not totally clear here.
Is it

1. You sent a list of photographs that you wanted eg. B&G with G's dm/df, B&G with B's dm/df

and she's removed Bride from the photos and taken off all the photos of your family and your friends.

1. You sent a list of photographs and she's added a load more "G with G's Dm's friends, G with G's dm's second cousin once removed..."

If it's the first you call the photographer back and reinstate your list

If it's the second, you say to the photographer that those are to be done last if and only if there is time. The reception needs to be starting at X o'clock and no photos are done after that.
And the groom isn't in them. If basically she wants to take the chance of getting extra photos with friends/family which is going to use the photographer's time when he's finished yours, then it isn't worth arguing over. It'll keep her out of the way and you can enjoy meeting your guests as a married couple.