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That people still think its ok to slate people with ginger hair?

My dd has been bullied for years for having ginger hair and when I see or hear supposed grown ups taking the piss it makes me think these people are actually responsible for passing this prejudice crap down to their kids. Some people need to grow up.

It's pathetic IMO. I think ginger hair is often really striking. I was expecting one of mine to be a redhead because DH is Scottish and has 2 redheaded sisters, 1 niece and 1 nephew and when he doesn't shave for a week he has a definite auburn beard starting. Also my grandad and my uncle both were that sandy/gingery blonde. None of my DCs have red hair, but I wouldn't have minded - and I'd have been highly pissed off if they'd been bullied or mocked about it. It is NOT acceptable, as you say. If it's not acceptable to mock people for their skin tone, or sexuality then why is it ok to mock people with ginger hair?

It's not ok at all, especially when you see your child in tears.

How idiotic. I am so upset for your dd. What are you going to do to her building up her confidence to ignore these bastards? So many people are colouring their hair red, it is ironic that this can bring unhappiness to a child. Also, don't forget bullying is often not about a particular issue, but due to dynamics it creates in the group, so if it was not red hair, it could be weight, nose or glasses (or indeed being too clever, not clever enough etc, the list is endless). Get to the bottom of it if you can!Good luck OP!

Is this because I posted about my ginger pube aversion? if it is, I apologize whole heartedly.
I honestly can't understand why any ginger would be bullied. It's the same IMO, as racism. Unacceptable.
I still couldn't do sexy times with a person with ginger pubes though. My problem.

She was fine until she reached 7 then started saying she wished she had brown or blonde hair. I tell her all the time she is beautiful and unique (she is stunning actually) but recently at high school she has been targeted :( I've also told her about people dying their hair to get the same colour but it just pisses me off that I hear adults making jokes about redheads in general. I'm a redhead, I put up with the same crap and even at work the other day my manager said something snide about gingers then looked at me and said no offence and laughed.

Have you spoken to her school about it? I will reiterate, it is the same as taunting or bullying someone based on their skin color.

I think it's pathetic, akin to bullying someone for their eye colour.

However, my ginger DS3 draws nothing but compliments. In the past two days alone, 5 unconnected people have stopped me to say how gorgeous he is.

(I agree, but I'm biased, obviously!)

So far, in two years, the positive comments about his hair colour outweigh the negative almost entirely - one lone negative comment versus too many positive comments to count.

I think it HAS improved. But then, given the incidence of gingerism in my family, we tend to have our own nicknames, so what people use as 'nasty' words don't have the same connotations for us.

My Grandad was ginger, his nickname was 'Sunshine', and his nickname for my mum is carrot top, my mum's nickname for me was copper top (naturally dark auburn and brown mixed together to make a rather muddy shade!), and my nickname for DS3 is my little gingerbread man.

We just laughed at the Duracell comments!

Sowornout - have 4 DC's! My first DC has a dirty blonde/ mousy colour, my second DC has black hair, my third DC has the same dirty blonde / mousy colour as DD, yet DS3...red.

Aren't gingers supposed to have a bad temper?

I agree with bemybebe. It could have been something else.

You may need to help your DD have a bit more self esteem.
Maybe find a way to retort to those people?
It is often about attitude and group dynamics.

Having said that, could you have a word with the school?

It's ridiculous and outdated, that kind of "humour" should have gone out with the cavemen.

Its disgraceful and a particularly British thing for some reason. In many places red-heads or people with a range of ginger to auburn hair are celebrated for their beauty. Or its just considered part of the normal mix of things.

UK mentality that's what the problem is really.

I had name calling because of my hair colour as a child. I got the usual Duracell and copper top.

My DD2 has ginger hair and it is stunning(pics on profile). If anyone were to ask her what colour her hair is she would reply 'Ginger and beautiful' because so many people comment on it in a positive way.

It is bad to make any child feel bad about any aspect of their appearance.

Just had a ridiculous thought. Send your ginger to the ME. From what I remember, the Prophet Mohammed was red of hair and it's seen as lucky.

I met someone the other day who said 'i never wanted a ginger kid' one of her twins was ginger

From her own mother!

It is a particularly UK thing. I can tell you that as an American.

I've always wanted red hair, but I think it looks odd if you're not lucky enough to be born with it and you dye it.

Some cousins on DH's side have daughters with the most gorgeous wavy red hair...really bright red, not just a ginger tint. I hope one of mine gets it too!

Very upsetting, your poor dd.

My nephew was bullied for having red hair, school would not help until his dad pointed out that it was racist bullying at which point they started to take it seriously, whereas before they had implied it was harmless ribbing he had to become used to.

Would it be possible for you to contact the school to ask them to remind pupils that mocking a person's appearance is bullying and unacceptable?

My dd is a stunning redhead but I dread her going to the high school my nephew attended.

ripishere you are missing out.

OP YADNBU!

Red hair is beautiful, especially on a girl, worn long.

Isn't there a ginger convention somewhere? Where they celebrate all things ginger and beautiful. That might help her confidence? (sorry if I've got that wrong, I don't know anything about it, just remember seeing it in the paper once).

I've spoken to the school countless times and things are fine for a while but then someone will make a comment and it gets her down again. School have a zero tolerance bullying policy