To think teenage girls are bloody hard work?

[rhondajean]

I have no experience of teenage boys, they may be just as bad but somehow I don't think so.

I am worn out! Dd1 is only just 13 and seems to be stumbling from crisis to crisis. Today was her friends ignoring her and leaving her behind. I remember how it feels, I WAS that girl, AIBU to be knackered and consider swapping dd2 for a dog because I don't think I can go through this for a third time?

I remember last year of juniors/first year of senior school was a trying time. A load of friendship angst, some girls growing up before others, squealing, high school fucking musical.

But since she has hit teenage years she has been fine. I am very lucky perhaps but she is a really laid back girl and doesn't cause any fuss and nonsense. She's 17 now and is really good. No drama here.

Actually I think it's girls in general - my teens are hard work but so is my youngest at 9 - her moods after a day at school and the whole friends excluding her etc just leaves me drained.

Funny how they can all be so different.

My DS is 15 and hasn't changed from the kind,caring and loving boy he always has been. However, puberty hasn't fully hit yet, so I'm hoping he isn't going to change into a monster at some point!

DD is 14. She can be all of the above and a joy to be around. However, she can also be stroppy, moody and a bit devious (but she knows I have the measure of her on that and will ALWAYS get to the truth!). She isn't awful by any means, but when she is being little miss attitude she isn't particularly nice to be around.

My nearly 16 year old is a delight. She's had her moments and I'm sure will have more, but she's responsible, honest and kind at the moment.

My 11 year old ... I feel I've failed her already. I don't think she even likes me.

I had considered trading my 13yr old DD in for another pony but DH said no, shes a bloody nightmare for us and a angel for everyone else. The 9yr old DD is chilled, gets on with everyone and doesnt care about the dramas of others, 19 mth old DS I fear may not make it to his 2nd birthday if he carries on the way he is.

I deliberatley left for work an hour early so i didn't have to deal with the screaming match that comes with my DD morning routine, left DP to deal with instead. After a bedtime screaming match last night the thought of doing it all again this morning was too much

My DD is nearly 13 and knows just what buttons to press and when, i do try to count to 10 in my head really i do but sometimes it just goes a bit world war 3 ish!

DS has never changed in mood and temperament in 18 years. DD (now 17) went through a frankly horrible few years from about 12 or 13 until around 16. Then, it was like a transformation had occurred, she changed her attitude to both home and school and became this person I wanted to be with. She's still got a stroppy side but then, so have I , but she has really grown up in the past year or so.
I think one of the hardest things is sometimes feeling like you're dealing with it yourself, either because you're a single parent, or simply because I don't think men always relate to girl's moods. They may have never come across them before, either because they just ignored it in their sisters and female mates at school, or because they didn't have either. I felt for a long time that I was trying to second guess my DD's moods, deal with them, and also provide a barrier between her and DH, because he really couldn't deal with them. He's an otherwise good, loving, tolerant Dad, he just didn't get teenage mood swings.
Hopefully your DD will soon turn that same corner, OP, but it is hard watching them go through something you can't really control or remove them from, as well as being hard dealing with your own feelings about it.