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to be angry with dh when he feels hard done by when i am ill?

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floatinginthesea · 29/01/2013 19:20

This weekend I got home from work feeling ill. I fell asleep on the sofa at 8 so went to bed. I spent the night either sweating so much I had to change nightclothes or freezing. My head was hurting and feeling very dizzy. I was in bed the next day so DH had to take DD to dancing and wait in the cafe for her to finish. She had a friend over for a play date in the pm which kept her busy. I had a microwave meal for lunch and got up to eat my take away dinner. I was still feeling rubbish the next day. He left at 10.30 to go to a footy match 30 mins away at most that started at 12. He got home after a quick drink at 4pm. He then sat down and watched more footy for the afternoon. I looked after DD, made dinner and then felt so awful I went back to bad. Monday he was in a foul mood with me cos it is so hard for him when I go to bed for all that time!

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DublinMammy · 29/01/2013 19:21

Leave the bastard.

manicbmc · 29/01/2013 19:22

I'm presuming you both work. So why shouldn't he pull his weight at the weekend, whether you are ill or not?

pictish · 29/01/2013 19:22

Is he generally selfish like that?

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 29/01/2013 19:24

He's an arsehole. Hope you feel better soon.

ihearsounds · 29/01/2013 19:24

Sounds like a charmer.

floatinginthesea · 29/01/2013 19:26

We do both work full time. Im at home one day a week and he is at home two days. He thinks he does far more than his fair share of the housework cos he does all of the ironing (I have a back issue and can't stand for a long time). He does do stuff usually but expects mountains of gratitude for everything he does and what I do is just taken for granted. Which is funny really if it is so bad for him when I am ill then I must be doing something when I am well!

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floatinginthesea · 29/01/2013 19:28

He's been incredibly selfish since he got near to his 40th - he is well past that now and nothing has changed. I'm glad I am not going mad here - he makes me feel so guilty for getting mad about this stuff. I know he is stressed and has lots of issues at the moment but we all have stuff to deal with.

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floatinginthesea · 29/01/2013 19:29

Thank you - i've not been back to work yet but hopefully tomorrow.

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MamaBear17 · 29/01/2013 19:34

Your hubby is being ridiculous. You cant help being ill!

Hissy · 29/01/2013 19:38

Why didn't he cancel the footy? Or go later? Why did he leave 90m before he had to, and stop for a drink after? Who does that?

Ah, I remember. My abusive EX did that.

Don't let him get away with this. Start booking yourself a bit more free time, and leave him to get on with his fair share.

Lueji · 29/01/2013 20:01

Sounds like my ex too.

There's a pattern here somewhere...

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2013 22:17

Sorry but you're 'D'H does the same on a weekend when you are sick that mine does when I am well. Tell him to shut his moaning mouth and step up.

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