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to think that "love" is just as bad as "hun"?

87 replies

wannabedomesticgoddess · 29/01/2013 18:55

I see posters on here calling each other love all the time now and I really cant stand it.

Why? Surely its just as bad as hun?

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LucyGoose · 29/01/2013 20:49

Can we just agree that the absolute worst are: pet, petal and hinny!
Yes, my inlaws are from the NE.

What the heck is a hinny? It sounds like a small horse.

ugh.

EmpressMaud · 29/01/2013 20:49

Yes, Bunny, do tell about the 'low people'. I too would love to know.

Jinsei · 29/01/2013 20:51

I judge "hun" too. It's a bit different from the old dialect words, isn't it? I don't think hun is traditionally used anywhere in the uk, is it? It's a fairly recent import as far as I know, and I think that's why it doesn't ring true to me.

Foggles · 29/01/2013 20:52

I am from the north and like love and pet

I hate hun. It doesn't sound genuine at all.

diaimchlo · 29/01/2013 21:02

Being a Northerner born and bred and definitely not a 'low' person I use the term love all the time to people I interact with as a pleasant term not a put down and so does nearly everyone else I know here so Mrsbunnylove you are definitely an exception to the rule.... I would remove the last 4 letters of your user name.

As for Hun and babe can't be doing with them at all.

DoesItComeInBlack · 29/01/2013 21:14

I'm a Yorkshire lass, I use love all the time, I'm called love all the time, in a lovely affectionate caring way. I'm v well educated, and a professional person. I'm not low or vulgar. But then again I'm not stuck up either.....

growingbytheday · 29/01/2013 21:18

Hinny is Geordie for woman and is used by both men and women (mostly older) affectionately as also are 'bairn' (child) and 'marra' (friend). Hacky (dirty) not so much!

mumblechum1 · 29/01/2013 21:22

I'm from the North West, but now live in the Home Counties and I sometimes call people Love just to be friendly, eg if a small kid is in my way I'll gently nudge them along and say, "excuse me love"

And I is dead posh, I is. Smile

SunshineOutdoors · 29/01/2013 21:23

Interested to hear what constitutes a 'low' person too.

TartWithACart · 29/01/2013 21:38

Actually, I change my mind. They are both equally vile and make me want to vom only when used in a patronising way or by someone my own age/younger (why people in their early twenties insist upon calling me 'love' is unfathomable). I don't really object to being called love, hun, duck, pet, sweets, doll or babes if it's meant in a friendly way. Now that I think about it my parents call me all of the above on a regular basis Confused although if DP starts I am going to LTB!

salopia · 29/01/2013 22:01

as a nurse of 25 yrs I am delighted to be called any of these things !! bloody hell you lot, there are far worse you can be called

abbyfromoz · 29/01/2013 22:24

'Love' is patronising. Sounds like an old aunt trying to give you a lesson on life. Hun is fine... It's a 'non' word.

roastednut · 29/01/2013 22:24

What bamboostalks said. I really don't mind any of them. I can't really understand why people get irritated by it.

ImperialBlether · 29/01/2013 22:31

I had a twelve year old say, "Excuse me, love" the other day.

LouMae · 29/01/2013 22:34

Doesn't offend me at all. Very commonplace in Lancashire, particularly from bus drivers! I think it's quite nice and shows the person is down to earth and not up their own arse.

RandallPinkFloyd · 29/01/2013 22:46

Isn't it all about intent thought?

If someone is calling you sonething in an attempt to patronise it doesn't matter whether its hun or love, it's just them being a twat.

If its a genuine term of endearment I couldn't give two shiny shites if its pet, chuck, duck or lovely, it's just nice to be nice.

doublemuvver · 29/01/2013 23:34

I love "love" being in Yorkshire and all. Part of its dialect history, high and low. Detest "hun" and cringe when someone refers to me as such. Colleagues know not to call me it!

garageflower · 29/01/2013 23:58

I don't really see the offence in any of these terms if they're said/meant in a nice or affectionate way. I say 'babe' and 'love' to my close mates and I'm not vulgar or patronising. I don't say 'hon' but that's because I just don't, not because I find it annoying. Isn't the meaning behind the word more important? I don't know anyone that uses those words to be patronising.

RafflesWay · 29/01/2013 23:59

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LouMae · 30/01/2013 00:04

I don't think it is generational raffles I think it's regional.

RafflesWay · 30/01/2013 00:26

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MurderOfGoths · 30/01/2013 00:36

So am I still allowed to say "sweetie" and "sweetheart" or will you all have me thrown off MN? Grin

loofet · 30/01/2013 08:15

I think 'love' can be quite cocky actually. I'm just thinking of someone going 'Alright love, calm down' in a cocky tone.

I hate all pet names personally and I am a Northerner where you're either a love or a mate, not really gender assigned either. They all get my goat.

Moistenedbint · 30/01/2013 08:50

Can't abide "hen" ... Particularly when it's regurgitated by middle-class people trying to enhance their non-existent working-class street cred.

mrsjay · 30/01/2013 08:58

I sometimes lovey people am I not supposed too I never do it in a way it is just the way I type oh well never mind sorry if it annoys some people

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