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Original poster

To feel sad that DS (5) is so keen on telling the truth all the time?

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BupcakesAndCunting · 29/01/2013 01:16

OK so I am but still...

Earlier on I did a quite smelly botty bubble. It was SBD. DH unexpectedly came back into the room (thought he was in the shower) and said "OH MY GOD HAS SOMETHING DIED IN HERE??" I said "Ha ha no, little Cunting just parped." Little Cunting side eyes me and goes "No I DIDN'T. Fibber. It was YOU"

Also, in a fit of pique the other day I said something quite rude about a boy in his class (he has been physically hurting DS though) andimmediately I corrected myself "Mummy shouldn't have said that, mummy was wrong, please don't repeat that." As soon as I get him to the class door, DS spots his nemesis and says "Oh look there's !" then he looks at his teacher and says "Mummy said that name,she told me not to tell anyone though"

BestMomEvah. :(

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FarelyKnuts · 29/01/2013 01:21

:D The truth will set your wind free Bup

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BupcakesAndCunting · 29/01/2013 01:23

I gave birth to him.

You'd think the least he could do is take the blame for my guffs.

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Monty27 · 29/01/2013 01:27

Ugh! Been there. Ds asked someone in his class who had 'brown' skin if his dad was Indian. Fair enough question imo, and a totally innocent question too. Ds used to come home and day he wanted brown skin. So, I get pulled in, I cry, because of the way I brought them up (Catholic with, the commandments treat your neighbour... blah blah blah) So the school sends us to family therapy Shock.

In the meantime, DS goes up to one of his friend's mums in the playground and tells her she's fat :). She is.

At the end of therapy I got nowhere, they said, 'he's just very bright.'

He's 17 now and still the same.

My point is, I wish I hadn't taken their verdict iyswim. Ds is still hard work. Bit of a threadjack but just saying, DS was like that at that age.

FarelyKnuts · 29/01/2013 01:27

Maybe its better to blame the dog, at least he cant deny it :o

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BupcakesAndCunting · 29/01/2013 01:31

What?! Am I reading this right? Your got called in because your DS was in admiration of his friend's skin colour?! :(

I'll need to get a dog first!

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Monty27 · 29/01/2013 01:32

O no, wrong thread Blush

SquinkiesRule · 29/01/2013 01:41

It's that age I always like to think of it as wishful thinking not fibs.
Dd is 8 smart as a whip and likes to blame me for her farts. We also had some issues due to her admiration of her little friends brown skin, a little boy she has admired since they were in preschool together. I had to explain how she loves him and saying he's "as lovely as chocolate and wanted to eat him up" wasn't a racial slur but 5 year old love! Blush

Monty27 · 29/01/2013 01:47

Yes Bups, as I said I cried, because it was ds's pure admiration of his friend's skin colour, nothing else. And becuase they saw how upset about it I was, they arranged this family therapy. ffs. "Mummy I want to have the same skin colour as ..... " is what he said.

Wasn't the wrong thread, I've had

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Monty27 · 29/01/2013 01:48

Still a bit off thread really Bups but ds would just come out with stuff. That was the point. Soz Grin

IamtheZombie · 29/01/2013 02:29

Hi, Buppy.

Zombie waved at you yesterday as she and DZoH were driving through your town on our way home from a weekend with DSD1. Well, waved vaguely in your direction to be precise.

ArtexMonkey · 29/01/2013 02:31

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thereistheball · 29/01/2013 05:19

YABU for using the term 'botty bubble'

BeaWheesht · 29/01/2013 05:56

Most kids thiS age are honest- that's why when ds announced loudly in the supermarket 'mummy don't buy too much wine and don't drink it when you first wke up' people looked at me like I was a raging alcoholic. I have a drink maybe 3/4 times a year

scrappydappydoo · 29/01/2013 06:21

I have my own 6yr old backseat driver who keeps a close eye on my speed and tells when I'm 'breaking the law's and then loudly announces it to everyone at our destination. The problem is I don't speed - she just doesn't get that different roads have different speed limits.

Notafoodbabyanymore · 29/01/2013 06:47

DD (3) has just this morning asked very loudly why a lady in the hospital waiting room had no hair (she was clearly a chemotherapy patient, but luckily was lovely about it) and why another lady in the supermarket had only 3 teeth.

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brettgirl2 · 29/01/2013 07:12

In doctors waiting room biggish lady came out ahead of us. 3 year old pipes up 'that's a very fat doctor mummy' Blush I now find myself distracting her every time I see someone larger. I tried explaining to her that saying that would make the lady feel sad but she didn't really take it in so I'm just waiting for it to happen again. I don't know where it came from either, we never comment on people's weight in front of her even our own. Sad

JoandMax · 29/01/2013 07:22

Walking home with a few friends and their mums (who I don't know well) and someone going too fast in their car - one mum said "what a silly man going so fast". DS1 pipes up "Yes, he's a massive cock, that's what my Daddy says in the car"

Shame.......

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BupcakesAndCunting · 29/01/2013 08:18

Oh Zombie, I was wondering who that was, didn't have me specs on did I?!

LOL at calling Mike The Night a nob Grin and at "he's a massive cock"

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Oblomov · 29/01/2013 08:36

I was told that discretion is a skill that is 'supposed' to come into play at age 6.
Its all very well when a cute 3 or 4 year old tells the truth/says what they think... mummy, why is that lady so old/fat/ have hairs on her chin.
But supposedly, by 6, they are supposed to have learnt the social skills, and have the empathy to , well, presumably, know that they wouldn't like it, thus not say it to others.
So when people say, oh he's 16/18/24 and still does it, I'm not sure that's o.k. There's blunt and there's abbrasive and then there's autiuistic. Fine line between them all me thinks.
It is just a developemnt of social skills. Op can work on that with her ds, as can we all.

socharlotte · 29/01/2013 09:33

What a classy lady you are Hmm

Spatsky · 29/01/2013 09:42

I'd had a few drinks the night before and The following day we saw my martial arts class instructor. I had decided to sack off training that night to spend the evening having dinner with husband as we hadn't seen each other all week.

Instructor asked was I training tonight and when I said no my 7 year old says "it's because she had too much alcohol last night".

I wouldn't have minded as much but it wasn't even the reason but I felt I would make it worse by denying it.

WandaDoff · 29/01/2013 09:46

socharlotte is that a cat's bum on your face?

socharlotte · 29/01/2013 09:51

It most certainly is!

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BupcakesAndCunting · 29/01/2013 09:51

And what a twat you are.

HTH xxx

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socharlotte · 29/01/2013 09:53

The potty mouth that keeps on giving xxxxx