To think if one partner hates a name, you shouldn't call your child that?

[NikkiMonique]

My brother and his girlfriend recently had a little boy, and she has named him something which my brother really doesn't like.

I don't like it either - but it's none of m business.

I loved a name for my DD but my OH hated it so we have decided against it. I think you should compromise on a name that whilst one of you may not love it you should at least like it.

Has he told her he doesn't like it? (maybe an obvious question, but will influence my response)

Yanbu. We rejected loads of names because one of us didn't like them.

I agree that if one person in the partnership hates the name then the child shouldn't be called by that name. I wanted a name my DH didn't like at all so we didn't have it.

YANBU, but if your brother doesn't like the name he now has for his child he should have insisted on something else. Presumably he has a voice he can use?

Whilst I can agree its not your business I can also agree that I wouldn't go against my oh wishes if he didn't like a name.

I wouldn't pick a name if my DH didn't like it, but then he'd tell me if he didn't like it. If she didn't know how much he didn't like it, then it's his own fault for not speaking up.

Yes he voiced his opinions, but they only found out she was pregnant after they broke up. They are now back together, but she is sadly the sort of person who if they broke up she would probably stop all contact, so he wouldn't have argued the point to death.

I think we need to know the name before we can decide

My DD has a name I don't like but I chose it in a post birth haze and ignored DH when he said he didn't like it

Why would you name your child a name neither of you like, weirder than weird.

I agree. DH and I only managed to agree on one girls name, in nine months discussing names.

My partner has 100% vetoed my favourite name. I'm sad about it, but I just name all my Sims characters it instead

She should have taken his feelings into consideration though.

YANBU (anecdote time) my dad named one of my siblings something completely different to what my parents had agreed upon when he went to register her birth, my mother has never quite forgiven him (and chose the other two's names without him having any say).

Mini, thats terrible!! I'm surprised he dared do that to a hormonal new mum too haha! Was it an ok name in your opinion?

Hop, it's a horrible name but could be worse- he fought for me to be named Christobel fgs. I don't think he thought about what he was doing, just that he'd had 'inspiration' and couldn't be bothered to consult the mother of the child about it.

My grandfather did this.
When he went to register the birth with the local vicar, he and my grandmother had decided my mum's name would be Muriel.
The vicar wistfully told my grandfather "If I had a little girl, I'd call her Flora".
My grandfather said "Aye - that's nice. Just put that down!

So Flora she was. I think she had a lucky escape!

YANBU had ds been a dd we'd have been stuck. Could but agree on a girls name at all. You're gonna call that child's name fur the rest of you'd life-of course you both have to like it!

It depends on the situation. There are posters on the baby name threads whose DP/Hs 'hate' every single name except for the one or two they've decided the child should have ...

Where they together when she gave birth? He should have a say if they were.

I pretended to discuss names with dh but in reality it was a bonus he liked the name I picked

What Narked said.
In theory yanbu, but in reality some people use their intense 'passion' for disliking things as a way of avoiding any sort of compromise.