My sister has two year old twins and gets a lot of help from our family... Our parents take them whenever they can (every week on our mum's one day off) and our younger sisters practically live at her house. That's great, I'm glad we're such a close family but she seems to expect this level of help and gets very upset when people make plans that don't include helping her with her DDs. In the over two years that they've been alive she hasn't done a full day alone with them, and seems to fear being home alone with them. Her DH works long hours and earns very good money but she complains all of the time about money, despite having a new car every few months and designer clothes for her and her children. Our mum is approaching retirement and gets very tired as she works long hours and isn't in the best of health. She gets two days off work a week and one is spent with the church so the day she has the twins is very hard on her. In August she asked my sister if she could have them in nursery for a half day that day so she (our mum) could get a lie-in once a week and my sister flew off the handle and guilt-tripped our parents into agreeing to have them all-day. She takes them over to our parent's house as early as possible and doesn't give them breakfast before hand, even though they're up for two hours. She'll even bring them if she has a day off work and won't tell our mum this.
I'm going through some personal problems and my DD had to stay with our parents over the new year while I got our situation sorted out. My sister was very upset that our parents had never offered to "give her a holiday" and said that I was getting preferential treatment because I'm a single parent.
AIBU to feel that she gets enough help as it is (perhaps too much) and should stop complaining lest people stop wanting to spend time with her?