Was I being unreasonable? Nappy Changing

[canyou]

My DB called for a play date with the his DC and mine, His dd 1 yo needed a new nappy very smelly he picked up changing bag and went into my 'good' room the tidy toy free visitor room I stopped him and asked him to go to the bathroom where I have a baby changing unit and a nappy bin and all my DC have their nappies changed, everyone got odd,
I never change my DC anywhere but a bathroom when visiting esp once they were at the wriggling over 6 mo stage and I never put a nappy on the fire or into my solid fuel stove so it can fall against the glass door and melt .
My Mum DB and DSis all think he should have been allowed into the sitting room to change her.
Reason I have a 'good' clean toy free child free room is we had a sudden death in the family recently and still have people calling to sympathise so this way I have some where to go with them and not worry about them sitting on dinky cars or baby dolls or tripping on lego.
So WIBU?

Being ODD is our way of saying disagreeable and certifiable

I would always ask where to change a nappy as you never know when a stray pieve of poo is going to escape/get flicked across the room by a wiggly child/seep out of the side of a nappy as you take it off (my son is disgusting by the way!). I'm surprised that ANYONE would think it's ok to put a nappy on a fire - the fumes given off by burnt plastic contain any number of noxious elements not to mention that the smell of burning poo can scarcely be better than the smell of it first time round. All in all, YANBU, but your brother is and weird with it.

YANBU.

I always asked where the houseowner would prefer me to change my child's nappy.

YAdefNBU

Eeew - a nappy on the fire! Who could even think that this might be okay?!

YANBU, we don't have dc and have (IMO) a v nice home that suits our lifestyle. Friends and family are always welcome with their kids but we ask them to change shitty nappies in the spare bedroom or the bathroom. One friend in particular ignores this and insists on doing it in our (lovely) bedroom, leaving it stinking of crap. It's rude and pisses me right off.

Yanbu

I like it Cany, I think I may use it on Mum's net and in fact in real-life situations too

I went for lunch with a group of friends recently, friend wanted to change her grand-daughter on the floor at the side of the table where we were eating lunch and was rather when we all asked her to take baby to the bathroom or another room. Bleeurgh!

I don't know anyone in RL who would expect a visitor to change their baby's nappy in the bathroom or to leave the room, nor would I expect anyone to do so in my house - everyone I know with a small child would just get on and change the baby on a mat in the living room, bag up the nappy, stick it in the bin and then wash their hands in the kitchen.

What Flisspaps said.

YANBU. If you have a changing station it is obviously the most appropriate place for any child to be changed, and in your house you are perfectly entitled to ask any guest to change nappies there. You are also perfectly right to not allow anyone to try to burn disposable nappies in a small burner! Would make me to be made to feel in the wrong in your situation.

If that's fine in your house Flisspaps then fine, but in mine (and OP's it seems) there are some rooms we'd rather this did/ didn't happen.

I wouldn't want to change a 1yr old on a high changer in a bathroom? I presume you have a tiled floor?

YANBU

Burning a nappy would stink the house up for hours if not days, very disgusting! The rest - your house, your rules. I try to be sensitive to the fact that other people are not as enamoured with my DD's shit as I am, so I always carry a changing mat, ask where I can change her (happy to do it on the floor) and take the nappy with me in the car (especially with friends who do not have children and are not habituated to the particular delight of nappies festering away in the bin!).

Yanbu!

I have a change table under the stairs, use it, if I choose to change my 5wk old on my knee I can tis my house!

Also, SIL looking at you, do NOT leave a full potty in my living room over and over again and yell at my big dc to mind it, I have a downstairs toilet a few steps away, make your lazy child use it or you get off your lazy arse and empty the potty.

MIL chucks nappys on her fire makes me want to vom!

He put it in the fire?

I find it more odd that you call your brother coming round with his kids a 'playdate'

I've rarely changed my kids nappy in anyone's loo because I've never been asked to. Most of my friends tell me to use what ever room I'm comfortable with.

I couldn't care less where people change nappys in my house, mind you,my one and only bathroom is so small it would be impossible to change a babies nappy in there.

YANBU.

Babies wouldn't be changed on the floor in this house, because we have a dog that believes he has a right to chew most things left on the floor.