AIBU to be quietly pissed off with a woman taking up a buggy space with her "reborn" doll?

[VinegarDrinker]

First up, I fully accept that this woman may well have psychological issues. And there is NO WAY I would say anything out loud.

And people are welcome to whatever hobbies they enjoy, and if that involves buying big expensive travel systems for your doll then be my guest.

But taking up a buggy space on a busy bus/train? AIBU to think this is taking your hobby a tiny bit too far?

[HyvaPaiva]

'Poor cow has failed at life' Bella, that is disgusting of you.

[WaitingForMe]

I'd never have the confidence to be sure the baby wasn't real. DS regularly looks a bit fake to me when he's asleep partly due to the cream I use for his eczema which gives him a slightly plasticky sheen.

[catladycourtney1]

I watched something about a woman who pushed her cats around in a buggy once. I fear that may be me one day. Probably quite soon.

[zookeeper]

I wouldn't say a thing, however irritated I might feel. I would feel sorry for her. Some people are very hard.

[Ullena]

Bella, if you yourself are childless and feel you have failed at life, then I feel sorry about that. I have been there. I have since moved past that point where you can't walk past a baby without feeling a stab of misery, but I still remember what it was like. Your post has reminded me all over again It did come across as a very insensitive thing to post though, especially if you are not in this situation yourself.

I feel sorry for the woman with the doll too, but I do understand that it would be a bit eyebrow raising for an actual parent, especially if they needed the space for their own baby. Although I'm utterly terrified of dolls in general, so am not clicking on the links!

[IneedAsockamnesty]

Apparently plenty of people who don't have any issues buy these dolls,so whilst jumping on someone for a comment (that yes was a bit thoughtless) and using the she obviously has problems line is just as thoughtless.

Its entirely possible she's just a grown up who wanted a decent doll.

That aside and as much as the dolls creep me out, I hadn't realised the amount of work that goes into making them apparently its 30 hours just to do the hair,that's some work and I expect it takes real talent to do.

[RooneyMara]

I recently sold a buggy to a couple (I think - she was about 60, he was about 25) who wanted it for their dog.

Lovely people. Dog tried to kill me.

The dog died a few weeks later. They wrote to tell me, in capitals. poor dog.

[BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte]

nappyaddict No it was in Central London, a tube station

[BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte]

OMG.. poor cow?!?!? :(

Hope I never meet you on a bus

[Bella88]

Ullena, yes that it exactly the place I was posting from, thank you for reading between the lines and not being so quick to condemn me for an admittedly stupid comment.

[5madthings]

Oh yes I remember the grandma mrsdevere and the real life grandson talking to her on Skype!

Ask said earlier each to their own and if nobody actually needs the space then fine but if someone actually does need the space then yes she should move it!

[TepidCoffee]

You weren't going to Chelmsford were you OP?

[pumpkinsweetie]

Maybe she had gone loopy in the fog of wanting a baby
She wasn't doing you any harm & anyways if the child was real the space would have still been taken.

[loofet]

I've seen a few documentaries on this.

Some women do have 'issues', either through loss of a child or fertility problems but for some they didn't want an actual screaming, shitting, pissing (list could go on) baby who would eventually grow up and they would always be responsible for this child. They just wanted a baby that stayed at newborn stage and didn't cry all night etc. Spent £££ on them but way they justified it was how some people are with their car or pets which is true. Some people do see their car or dog as their 'baby' and spend a fortune on them. So it might seem weird to us regular folk because we can't get over the notion of it being a doll that kids play with but really its no more weird than people with dressed up dogs and whatever.

I do feel very sad for the women who do it because they couldn't have their own kids/lost their DC though Must be nice for them to have that comfort. I did see one woman who had a doll done like the baby she lost I cried.

Off on slight tangent there! As long as woman wasn't preventing someone who needed it for a real living baby then yabu, she wasn't harming anyone. She should think of a sling though, can sit down in normal seat then.

[ilovesprouts]

ewwwww them reborn dolls give me the creeps :(.

[soontobeburns]

I must admit I have had a few times a longing for a reborn. I have only been TTC for 3 years but being told I will most likely never have children (cant afford IVF) its does make me very upset.

I admit I have teddies which I talk to and call my DD or DS (Only at home) but if I have a hospital appointment or am depressed I will stick them in my bag and just hold their ear or arm. This might seem strange but it is a great comfort for me.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

I usually try to ignore/understand people unless they are deliberately and maliciously doing something which has an adverse effect on me or mine. I find life this way so much less stressful, than getting all knickers in a twist about a mentally ill/lonely/whatever lady comforting herself with a reborn doll.

[greeneyed]

soontobe :( I do hope you get your miracle

[IceNoSlice]

Sending you good thoughts soontobeburns. Keep on shagging m'dear, maybe you'll be lucky.

[SoleSource]

Fantabulous luggage rack comment had me in stiches.

[HollaAtMeBaby]

at Mrs DeVere "This sort of thing is just part of living in East London really."