Or is she taking the piss?

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Have namechanged for this but am a regular...
If I'm being too sensitive please tell me.
Right married 5 years first baby on way (I'm 35 weeks). Anyway both SILs have in the past commented on my weight (not that they are Kate moss themselves) nothing too nasty but things like I'd love to look like 'so and so' wouldnt you like a figure like that madeup? One time it went to far after I'd lost a lot of weight they basically were horrible about how awful I looked before and OH said something.
Anyway in this pregnancy I have only put on 1 1/2 stones I've been eating really well but walking and jogging lots but they have started making comments about how huge I am (I'm really not a d midwives have commented how small bump is) and how much weight I've gained (even though I've pointed out to them I've gained half of what they did)
Urghh annoying me as I don't actually care if I'd have gained 1 stone or 10 as long as the baby is ok but these comments are getting to me now- am I reading too much into it? As honestly from anyone else saying I'm big (my brother has said it too) I don't mind but when say it because of past comments it hurts

You could be reading too much into this.

Before reading mumsnet and realising how some people get offended at all sorts I often made 'wow...look at the size of bump now' type comments. I loved my huge belly so always intended them as a 'how lovely is that' type compliment.

Ask them if they realise their comments are hurtful? Then watch them furiously backpedal. Might make them think before they speak in future if they know you won't let them get away with it.

They are bitches. They feel bad about their own weight. Next time they suggest you have put on a lot,you need to say to them 'are you forgetting how much you put on without being pregnant?' Mwahaha

Jealousy, pure and simple.

But, weight is always considered fair game for a pregnant woman - difficult to explain, I suppose it goes back to times when weight was considered to be a combination of health and wealth.

Anyway, if you are doing all that exercise you will ping right back into shape, and then they'll be asking if you are anorexic.

Are they usually bitchy in other areas?

What fanof said.

Even at full term I didn't look pregnant unless I wore a skin tight jumper...and if I needed a seat on the bus, I'd have to unzip my coat and push my stomach out.

I would have killed for a pregnant looking bump.

So if I ever said to a pregnant friend, "Wow look at the size of you"...I was literally talking about the baby bump and would never have imagined they'd think I was talking about them IYSWIM?

But having joined MN and realising how many people get hung up about it, I know wouldn't mention it at all.

Not really hollybush no- and generally we all get on ok. It's just these weight comments in the past that's caused any issues. I may see if anything more is said over the final few weeks as we're at a family birthday next week but I am expecting comments about needing to lose weight once baby is born and I've told my DH that I'm going To say something if that happens

You could use the mumsnet staple ' did you mean to be so rude'.
Or you could say something like ' gosh you really do seem to be obsessed with my weight'.
Or just a straight forward ' why do you feel the need to comment on my weight?' Should make them uncomfortable enough to shut up about it.

You cant really win because if you tell them that you are upset they will blame pregnancy hormones so just rise above it. Your weight is healthy, 22 - 24 pounds gain is healthy according to my doc. Enjoy your pregnancy and if they continue to bitch just smile and say that you are healthy and happy thank you

1. They are jealous of you
2. They are pair of shallow, unintellingent cunts whos opinion should mean nothing to you.

Sorted

Ignore them dear, you're carrying a baby you have every right to eat lots of Victoria sponge and Earl Grey tea