to be angry and disappointed that I am still...

[mameulah]

..3 stone overweight despite being miserable about it for 3 years!!!

I have experienced many ugly moments that should have motivated me to get my ass in gear for more than three or four days at a time but for some reason (that I don't understand) I give up and fall off the wagon and into the biscuit barrel, again. I am defeated about being defeated.

Honestly, I haven't quite had the 'couldn't fit in the plane seat' moment yet but I have had plenty like it. Why do I keep on sabotaging my efforts?

Can you either help me figure out what is wrong with me or give me a kick up the backside in the right direction?

Run

When you figure it out, tell me. I am five stone overweight and a size 20. I, like you, have had plenty almost eureka moments but have fallen off the wagon even when it was a healthy eating plan with treats rather than a diet with forced exercise.

I eat chocolate and cheese. A lot. Not together...usually. I eat plenty of healthy food too but must go overboard with the portion sizes or treats. Or both.

I don't hate my weight but if I was say three stone lighter I'd be a hell of a lot happier and accepting of it.

Have you tried Weight Watchers? I lost about 3 stone there a couple of years ago and actually found it quite easy to stick to. Left to my own devices I fall off the wagon within a couple of days.....or else spend 11 months or so saying I'm going to diet next week and never do. I did find that going to WW every week kept me on the straight and narrow.

Don't have any biscuits, sweets, cakes, icecream, cheese, cream etc in the house. If it's not there you can't be tempted by it - and you'll be doing the rest of the family a favour too by removing all the sugary junk!
Keep a food diary of absolutely everything you eat. Have you got "My Fitness Pal" app? That's a very useful tool.
Don't give up. You fell off the wagon? Ok, so now it's time to climb back on board. Your new leaner self begins now.

Eat clean, train dirty. Seriously. A girl a went to uni with rocked up on my FB page and I couldn't believe how much weight she had lost after battling it for many years like myself. Her secret was running. I'm following suit as soon as I recover from my surgery.

Do not be defeated xx

What have you tried? I swear by weight watchers and have lost almost 2 stone. Don't really exercise and still have q takeaway once a week. Give it a go. Good luck x

This is ace, thank you so much. I am/was doing weightwatchers and actually really like the new propoints approach. I have properly lost three stone twice in the past and can see what mistakes I made and how I put the weight back on. Also, I had a baby eight weeks ago and so, so want to be a healthy and fit Mummy but I just can't seem to maintain that focused headspace that you so, so need when you want to make steady weight loss progress.

And, I would LOVE to go out and buy some lovely clothes that were stylish instead of my uniform baggy jumper!

8 weeks ago! Congratulations! Can I just say, please give yourself some more time, you can't beat yourself up about your weight when you've just had a baby.I wasted so much time when Dd was a few weeks old (10 months ago) stressing about my weight and when I look back I truly wish I had just put it on the back burner and enjoyed those precious times. I'm not say to abandon your mission, just be a little kinder to yourself :)

Why do you keep sabotaging yourself? Because your body is chemically trained to make you keep sabotaging yourself. It is not your fault!

It's ALL about insulin. Get your insulin levels in check (by getting your blood sugar in check), and I guarantee you will look and feel better.

Read The Primal Blueprint and Gary Taubes Why We Get Fat. Amazing stuff.

Mam, I'm not overweight, but I am & have been, a smoker for nearly 25 years, I'm 5' 8".

But rotten inside.

Stop dieting. I'm a classic yo yo dieter & I genuinely believe if I'd never dieted I'd be lighter than I am now. Stop buying 'low fat' because it's usually full of sugar & just have a little of what you fancy instead. Home cooked meals with plenty of veg. I started eating like this when I met dp & weight started sliding off without me even trying. X

Ha ha - (low carber joins the thread) My name is Valdeeves.....(stands up ) and I'm a sugarholic! (clears throat) and I haven't had any sugar for three weeks - go onto BIWI's low carb Bootcamp and read the first thread - she posted a link to it today.
If you can do two weeks without sugar you will transform the way you think about food and understand why you eat sugary stuff,
(Smiles and beckons to join.)

Btw I'm sitting here feeding my young baby so I know how you feel - I lost at least four pounds on that diet so far.