to ask my nanny to go into DCs school to do reading (cos I can't go, sob, guilt)

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Back to work 3 days and need a nanny for 2 days. Basically cant find anyone to do just before and after school, esp as we often have very early/late days, so have ended up paying a nanny for full days with the idea that she will do kids laundry/house tidying/sorting whilst kids are at school.
I am not sure we have enough of this kind of "child-related" work to fill her days and the other day she said "what would you do with your days if you were here - just tell me and I will do that..".

What I would actually do i go into school and do reading/help out with the DCs classes.

AIBU to suggest she does this? Not just from her point of view but also from the "wank-poncery" potential impression that sending a nanny into school in my stead might create amongst the DCs friends/other mums (very few have nannies though lots have CMs). On the other hand school are always asking for help and I thought it might help the nanny slot into the kids lives a bit mor fully and might be nice for the DCs to have someone from their wider "family" coming in to school.
Very sad that I can no longer go into school.. Boo hoo. (can't go in on my days off as have the pre-school who in in preschool on the nanny days during school hours)

the pre-schooler is in pre-school obv

and apologies for the long OP

I think that's a good idea. There are a few nannies at my daughters prep school and I don't think any of the mums would think anything of it.

YANBU. The nanny will probably love it! so much she leaves you to qualify to be a TA or teacher

I once had a nanny job where the child started school and it was really awkward trying to pretend I was filling an entire day....everything was done by lunchtime....but I couldn't just go off and do my own thing because I was being payed - both parents were SAHP. (Luckily they went out to lunch and art classes a lot).

Yes. Something slightly weird bout paying a "me substitute" to go into school on my behalf though...

One of the girls in ds's class had a nanny for similar reasons and she got pretty involved with all the school stuff. Noone thought it was poncey or odd.

We (other school gate mums) all loved her (we loved the mum as well btw).

Hmmmm I would feel funny about it too, OP. I know why you're asking! I feel weird about having our nanny take my DDs to gymnastics. But they're fine with it, I haven't heard of any comments from the other parents...

Just as an aside, how many days is your preschooler at preschool? She or he may LOVE to have a whole day of one-on-one time with your nanny, just doing special things like painting or reading stories?

Thanks Kiwi and everyone, thats helpful to hear.

Preschooler will have a bit of nanny time - but I want to keep the preschool going as I think its good prep for school and also all DCs will go the in school hols for holiday club when nanny away so I like to keep the relationship with nursery going IYSWIM

I used to go to a mum and toddler group and there was a nanny there with her two charges.

We really thought nothing of it (apart from maybe a little envy). I think it would be fine, if the other parents even knew it wouldn't be that big a deal.

I think it's a bit weird.

Schools ask for volunteers to go in and help, not people who have been sent by others.

I think it's fine as long as she wants to do it. Our nanny is way more involved with the school than me and she goes out of her way to do so because she clearly gets something out of it.

Our nanny takes the girls to classes and groups. She hasn't done much school stuff yet as she always has DD2 but once she is in nursery class I anticipate and hope she will. YANBU IMO.