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AIBU?

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To insist on having the biggest room

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HintofBream · 24/01/2013 20:18

We have just returned from a holiday I arranged for eight of my family plus three friends. I booked five rooms. One was a triple room for son and his two small kids, one a double room for married friends, no problem with either of these. The remaining rooms were two doubles and a twin. I expected that DH and I would have one double, DS and his partner would have the other double, and single male friend would share the twin with my 19 year old grandson as agreed when I did the booking.

When we arrived the chalet staff had rather randomly assigned us otherwise, allocating the twin to DS and partner and large double which had an additional single bed to friend and grandson.

I was not pleased because while discussing rooms in advance friend had agreed to share a twin but by his sticking to the double it meant my DS and partner had the twin room - not very romantic.

Friend's line was the loo was separate fron the bathroom in the larger double and it was better for him and Gson for that reason.

The other double which he wanted DH and me to have was a lot smaller. I had to give my DS a lot of help with his two small kids, 7 and 9, plaits, bathing and general grannying which woud be a complete pain in this cramped room.

After a bit of argy bargy, friend agreed to relinquish prime room. Then he decided he did not want to share the twin and asked chalet host for a single room. This cost him 100 euros.

Should I have shared the cost of this, as my Gson ended up in a twin on his own? Or was friend being unreasonable not wanting to stay in the twin because the loo was in the en suite with the shower? Grown men surely usually manage in these circumstances. As we were a large party, we got a discount and I shared this out equally despite making all the arrangements, phone calls, paying deposits etc. Just to say our friend is normally very kind and helpful and I was really surprised at his initially claiming the posh room in the way he did. I am still wondering if IWBU.

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JustAHolyFool · 24/01/2013 20:20

I'd let it go to be honest. Can't say if YWBU or not because I can't really quite get at what the problem was.

timidviper · 24/01/2013 20:22

I don't think you are being unreasonable. You did all the organising and he should, within reason, fit in with your plans and what was agreed ahead of arrival

HintofBream · 24/01/2013 20:58

Thanks timidviper. Sorry the problem wasn't clear JustAHF, I tried to be concise. The AIBU is really about whether I should chip in with the extra money friend paid after I insisted on best room.

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Coconutty · 24/01/2013 21:03

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HintofBream · 24/01/2013 21:14

Coconutty, yes you are quite right, can't understand why I am still worrying about it, better things to do. Reality check accepted.

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ravenAK · 24/01/2013 21:20

Your friend agreed to your proposed rooming, discovered on arrival that he didn't fancy the set up & paid a smallish premium for an upgrade.

His decision & his cost to incur but if the goodwill's important to you, you could buy him a nice bottle to thank him for swapping out of the room after chalet staff allocated it to him.

HintofBream · 24/01/2013 21:47

RavenAK, thank you for your reassurance. We did pay more than fair on the bar drinks front, but your idea is good and we will, I think, get him round for a meal soonish. He is nice, and has been skiing with us several times before with no problems, which is why I was so surprised at the tussle over rooms this time.

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Katla · 24/01/2013 21:52

I'd not be buying him anything - it sounds like plans were agreed before, chalet staff didn't help matters but you got it sorted. Then friend decided he didn't want to share - that's his choice but no need for you to share cost.

Also, as ^ it's all done now and you're home so forget about it. Onwards, not backwards Smile

whois · 24/01/2013 22:38

Toilet was in the shower room? Surely that's normal.

Friend was being U both about the toilet and taking the best room when he had no need for it nor was the organiser.

However I wish chalet staff wouldn't allocate rooms when one party has the whole chalet, it can lead to problems like this! We had a similar issue except me and DP were unknowingly allocated the best room and then en ex friend of a friend got a massive strop on because she was 2 weeks pg or something and NEEDED the better bed. (Which she could have had on day one, but we werent going to swap on day 2 after we had all slept in tbe beds and she had had a nosey to see which was the best room!) As it happens she turned out to be a total loon and her husband had been sleeping with half the country and it all came out on the ski trip. Uncomfortable you could say.

HintofBream · 24/01/2013 22:56

Katla, yes, water (or snow) under the bridge.
Gosh, whois, that must have been an interesting holiday. Thanks for thinking I was not U. Yes, many a toilet in the shower room, and on a previous trip with us he had, seemingly happily, shared one with my nephew. That's what semed so odd about the fuss he made this time.

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cumfy · 24/01/2013 23:16

I don't think you should have "allowed" staff to allocate.

They don't know your personal circs and clearly you wanted the twin for GS and friend.

HintofBream · 25/01/2013 09:41

Cumfy, I totally agree; I was indeed rather surprised when they had allocated the rooms, as usually we have just been told which rooms are ours and have been left to sort it out ourselves. However the staff were waiting for us with a list, grabbed all our bags and helpfully (?) took them to the rooms they had earmarked for us. By the time the eleven of us had sorted ourselves out, Friend was in command of the best room. He did take some winkling out, and seemed to regard their allocation as written in stone, as opposed to what I had booked. Still all sorted eventually and it was a brilliant holiday for all concerned. I know in the great scheme of things it is a trivial matter, but it was preying on my mind and I feel a lot happier thanks to MN opinions.

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