AIBU to change my mind about only wanting two children?

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We have 2 kids, ds (4) and dd (2.5). When dd was born me and my dh agreed that we were happy with two and we wouldn't have anymore. Up until about two months ago I was happy with this agreement, but recently I have started to think about having another baby. I didn't say anything for a bit, thinking the urge might just go away, but I can't stop thinking about it! So last night I broached the subject with my dh, who seemed shocked, and not at all keen. He says that he is happy with the 2 we have, and feels that we have just started to get our lives back a little, kids are at school/nursery, out of nappies etc, and that he really doesn't want another baby. He says he thought we were on the same page. So...should I leave it and hope the urge goes away? Or should I try and persuade him? Anyone with experience of this?

How would you like it if he kept banging on about not wanting one and how it was definitely the best decision to only have two? While YANBU to have changed your mind, it's not like you deliberately misled him, YWBU to keep mentioning it to him knowing his feelings.

Tough one. YANBU to have changed you're mind. You couldn't help that. Perhaps you could ask your DH to sit with you and have an open discussion about it. You can both put forward your pros and cons. If he is adamant about having no more is he willing to consider a vasectomy? If an unexpected pregnancy occurred could he accept that you would want to have that baby? I hope you can either persuade him or come to terms with keeping your family the way it is

Hang on, I haven't KEPT mentioning it to him, that's the point. I mentioned it once last night to gauge his reaction. He didn't seem keen. Since then I haven't mentioned it again. Far enough if you think I am BU by the way, but I just wanted to clarify that I have only brought the subject up once with dh.

Thanks Bourbons. I would never get pregnant 'by accident', if we were to have another it would be in agreement if you see what I mean. I think I will try and sit down and have a proper chat with him about it. I don't want to badger the poor man about it, but I do think we need to talk it through.

I think it's normal to get broody when your DC gets to about 2, they stop being your baby and start being an independent little person.
Are you SAHM/WOHM?

I work 4 days a week, quite a stressful job but I enjoy it. My husband also works part time, we each have a day off with the kids which is great. I wondered if feeling broody at this stage was something that other people have experienced. Maybe it is just that my dd has stopped being a baby as such, out of nappies etc, and I just need to adjust to that.

We had something similar. I asked DH to think about it off and on for two months or so and if after that it was a definite no then I would accept it and move on. I did think though that he needed time to really be sure that he didn't want more. We b

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Anyway we agreed that we didnt want a massive, massive gap so it was going to be nowish or never.

I tried really, really hard to not bring it up all the time as I thought that would be annoying and counterproductive. Once he was used to the idea we decided to start TTC. But I too couldn't do it 'by accident' or without him properly wanting one.

Thanks PleasePudding. That's the same with me, I don't want a mahoosive gap either. If we do have another I would want it to be soonish. I think I will do what Bourbons suggested and have a good chat with him about it, and then give him a month or two to think about it. I'll try not to mention it, and then either he'll have come round, or he'll know he definitely doesn't want another. If that's the case I will have to try and move on, and not dwell on it too much. Either that or LTB!