To think 'hun' is less twee and sickly than using 'D' in front of all abbreviations for family members

[Bearbehind]

Spin off from another thread but it is a genuine question.

I don't really like the word 'Hun' and wouldn't say it in real life but I hate the use of 'D' in front of family member abbreviations ,DH, DD etc yet it is common place. I think this is far more twee, sickly and false than Hun.

Why is one acceptable but the other isn't?

Wouldn't people know what you meant if you just typed D, H etc?

[Tweasels]

Eh?

Surely though DH, DC whatever is just abbreviation for ease of typing. Hun isn't an abbreviation, people actually say it out of their mouths. I've heard them. I don't call my husband DH though. I use his name.

Also, I don't know, but is Hun short for honey? As a term of endearment? It definitely only used by people who are overly familiar with people they barely know. Like the types who "collect" Facebook friends.

Snot the same fing.

[Bella88]

YANBU

'Hun'ners and 'D'ers are indeed cut from the same tweem sprig print cloth viscose. Utterly toe curling the lot of it.

[LadyWidmerpool]

I can't bear the abbreviations. I don't care how long they've been around or if Shakespeare invented them. Awful, awful,awful.

[Porkster]

No Huns. Ever.

I hate dh, dd etc etc but use them as it's less clear if you use h, s or d.

[Tommy]

agree with Tweasels - I only use DH, DS etc on mumsnet. When i am talking about them to realk people in real life I either say "my husband" or "my son" or use their name.

I hate, hate, hate "hun" - blurgh

[tigerdriverII]

I am always worried about using DS etc in other forums in case it outs me as a Mnetter.

[notsofrownieface]

I absolutely hate the usage of hon/hun. It is too personal and makes the person using it sound dense (in my opinion).

For me it is is the same league as:
Lil man
Hubby
Bubba
Lil girl

In my experience people who use hon sound like this:

"Hey hon av u got dat fing we was tlkin abot"
"Ill pm u hon"
"fanks hon xxx"

It just shouldn't be allowed so yabu.

[mrsjay]

NO huns here i dont like the DD and all that I sometimes use it some times not , I do get confused with DSD DIS DSGD I could go on some of them are just daft I usually say the daughters or my mum or whatever

[Jengnr]

Ds, dd, dh etc etc are vile and cringey. Just type the effing words instead.

[FlouncingMintyy]

I simply think most people who use Mumsnet loathe hun and hunning and are neutral about dh, dd, ds etc. Its just one of those things.

[mrsjay]

what I don't understand is and maybe somebody can tell me is, a poster could type a long winded post with huge and complicated words but can't type husband nothing wrong with typing DH just wondering

[Glitterspy]

I always thought the 'D' was used with an element of sarcasm/ irony - often the 'D' concerned is acting any thing but 'dear' or 'darling'. Otherwise yes it is all a bit pukesome, I find 'hun' a bit condescending as well.

[tilder]

Exactly notsofrownie.

Hun is awful.

I didn't get the d bit when I first started on mn, used to type in full but can no longer be arsed. I have 3 children and use my phone so writing dc1 is a lot quicker then my eldest child or similar.

[wewereherefirst]

I use my phone so DH/DS etc is easy for me to type, also I've been using it on other forums for about 10+ years so it's ingrained in me now.

Calling someone hun is just patronising and false.

[BupcakesAndCunting]

YABU

Hun is a shooting offence.

I showed DH a thread once where an OP was slating her husband. Mine said "Why do you all keep writing DH?" I said "Oh it means husband..." Dh said "Oh well I know what that means then" I said "what" he says "Dick head?"

[mrsjay]

have 3 children and use my phone so writing dc1 is a lot quicker then my eldest child or similar.

I do that I can't be bothered saying youngest child or whatever

[Enigmosaurus]

Yabu.

I fucking hate, hate, hate, hate, HATE hun. Or hunny. Or hunni. Or hunnie or huney or any other stupid way to spell it. It's patronising and it's WRONG.

'D' means little more than 'the' to me. I can live with it, its a widely accepted acronym across the internet.

[MiniEggsinJanuary]

I hate "hun". Didn't we refer to the enemy at the Hun during the First World War?!

[MiniEggsinJanuary]

Oops - cross post!

[MiniEggsinJanuary]

Love your post notsofrownie!! Totally agree. My sis in law uses "hun" all the time and I think it just makes her sound more disingenuous and daft than ever!

[cumfy]

Just convenient shorthand, OP.

The dear/darling is silent; the "D" just conveniently signifies a family relationship.

It assists in the cognitive flow of complex events and inter-relationships.
Could be an F, R or any other random letter.

I am others take it literally in anyway whatever.

YABU

[cumfy]

Hun on the other hand is a twee affectation ..... and nothing but.