To think DH should be able to get himself out of bed?

[MrsHelsBels74]

DH is terrible at getting up. He has to leave for work at 8:30 & sometimes comes down in a rush at 8:15 saying to me 'why didn't you get me up?' AIBU to think he's a grown man & ought not to need me to get him up?

YANBU! lazy bones...

Yanbu. Tell him to buy an alarm clock. Or say no problem dear then kick him hard on your Way out of bed.

YANBU

But you do need to draw a line in the sand and tell him you won't be doing it any more
OR if you do agree that you will do it, he needs to be grateful and you need to do it with good grace

OP my DH is the same. Stays in bed till the last possible minute whilst I'm up, dressed, getting DC's sorted out, putting a wash on and generally multi-tasking before I go to work. He only has himself to get ready and off to work!
It drives me mad

YANBU. Tell him real men get their arses out of bed early doors and bring their partners tea in bed.

Yanbu.

Dh is normally the one to make me a coffee in the morning and either wake me at the right time as he goes out or will text me to check I've got up if he's gone earlier.

YANBU. Not your responsibility.

My DH is obviously a real man then! Up at 5.45, cup of tea delivered to my bedside at 6.25.

You are quite right, he should be able to haul his arse out of bed without you being blamed for him being late up.

I am currently having this issue with ds1-17 who thinks it's unfair that I don't give him a knock on his bedroom door. He sets his alarm then turns it off and dozes back off! .

littlewhitebag snap! Almost to the minute. It's one of DP's most endearing qualities - his willingness to get up early, make tea, do all last night's dishes and put them away and go to work before I'm even really conscious. [smug]

As so many MNsers myself included have nice tea making DHs.
It is perhaps only fair to get the OP to regress the balance and make her DH tea.

Nagging, however should not be necessary.

I have sympathy with him as an adult who needs to be woken up in the morning (when living alone I had a second very loud alarm clock well away from the bed to get me up). But then I'm a tea in bed lucky type.

If you need to wake up at about the same time is it any bother for you to give him a shake steal the duvet, cold water...? Doesn't mean you take responsibility for him being late, just a nice thing to do for your husband.

I do make him tea! I was up first today as DS2 woke up at 5:45 & it wasn't worth going back to bed after seeing to him. Normally I get up earlier as I need to have a few boy-free minutes first thing. He doesn't see the need for this so gets up too late.

As a person that needs to be woken by 2 alarm clocks the kids and dp and would probably sleep through the apocalypse yabu

So not only does he get up late, he leaves you to deal with the children for a couple of hours? Does this happen every morning?

Yanbu. I used to have this going on in my house. If dh overslept it was my fault because I didn't wake him. Bollocks to that!
I wouldn't mind giving him a shout on the odd occasion of course, but to take on the responsibility of his getting up as though he were my child? Nope!

He doesn't do it any more, as I flatly refused to take the blame for him being late for work. Fuck right off!

YANBU

My ex used to drive me crazy, he had to get up at 5.15am and thought it was my responsibility to make sure he got up. He would snooze his alarm every 5 bloody minutes for half an hour. I would've been up and down all night with my baby and was pregnant. He always thought it was unfair that he had to get up whilst I didn't so made damn sure I was awake too. Knob.

Sugarice
I have a 17 yr old Ds just like yours, you have my sympathy.

My friend said getting a lumi clock made all the difference to her dh getting up.

As someone who is hopeless at getting out of bed and seems to have an addiction to the snooze button, I have to say YABU

Yanbu I had this with my ex, ended up sharing a car got repeatedly called I'm for being late because he wouldn't get his lazy arse out of bed.

Mines the same. I was up and dressed to get ds to school on my day off way before him this morning. Kept getting moaned at for shoutting at him! Then he got up and had 5 minutes to get ready for work. Div!

I have lots of sympathy for my mum now though as when I was a teenager I was awful at getting up for school and she was forever having to shout and come up and down the stairs to me and my siblings. Sorry Mum!