To not know what to say to ex?

[Itsnotahoover]

After 5 years apart, in which time he's been married and divorced again, he's just asked me on a date! I feel this was prompted as he's found out I'm seeing someone and he hates that, but he's making me feel really awkward. We get on really well as friends nowadays, and have kept a good relationship for the sake of 6yo ds, but there's way too much water under the bridge for anything else, and I simply am not attracted to him anymore! Really trying to let him down without hurting his feelings too much but struggling!! Help!

Smile and say it's good to reminisce on good times on occasion but that ship has long since sailed and will not be returning. Be friendly but utterly clear.

Why not just say pretty what you've just said here?

We are great now as friends and I don't want to ruin that, especially because of our son.

But definitely don't mention the not attracted to him part, a mans ego probably couldn't handle it.

I've said we're better as friends and he said "but I'm not with you". It's not the first time he's done this but it's the first time in a year or so. I really don't want to hurt his feelings as I like the guy, but there's no future for us as a couple.

Then keep repeating it as necessary; it doesn't sound like a relationship with any kind of future.

Just say you are not interested? It's weird how some get all possessive if you start seeing someone else, even if they left you!

He's got a different woman on the go every week yet he says that's just to try and get over me! Sometimes I really wish I could just walk away and never see him again but I can't.

Simply say no & keep repeating!!

This constant asking, begging would drive me fucking mad. I would say exactly as you have done, but tell him that it is the last time you will respond to the question, any more and you will have to ignore or change the subject. It is quite rude and almost abusive to keep on and on, and creepy! Ugh!

" I feel this was prompted as he's found out I'm seeing someone and he hates that"
So basically he doesn't want you but he's damned if anyone else is going to have you? Nice.

What would his reaction be if you pointed this out? That might work. E.g. he asks you on a date, you respond (laughing a little as you do), 'Oh, you're only asking because I'm seeing X! What's up, does it hurt your ego that I'm not pining for you? Seriously though, maybe it's time you got back 'out there' and found someone new? I'm your past; not your future.

If he has a different woman on the go every week, he is not very sentimental.He is not worth it. He can't have his cake and it it. No wonder you dont want him. He's a prat. Tell him you are on good terms because of your boy and going there will ruin things. Fact

You know, I've never really got the whole 'I'm shagging about to get over you' thing, probably because it is utter shite. No, if you weren't over me you wouldn't be interested in other women - unless, of course, you were shagging about throughout our relationship?

I would say something like

Good God No, I move forwards with life, not backwards.

But then I don't give a fuck about an ex's ego. If you're worried he might get awkward then just a flat No.