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To not want my daughter out in a car in the snow tonight?

15 replies

allo2101 · 23/01/2013 19:18

My DD, 16 and a half, is seeing a boy of 19, I don't have a problem with this, but he only passed his test a month ago, the snow is horrendous around here with more forecast tonight and I really don't want her out in the car tonight. She thinks I'm being over-protective but people are being warned not to make unnecessary journeys around here. I have no problem with him coming round and have said I will make myself scarce but there is a lot of eye-rolling going on, lol.

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notMarlene · 23/01/2013 19:21

YANBU

Many of us have a limited sense of danger at that age. She's almost certainly not meanig to be U by wanting to go out.

Rosa · 23/01/2013 19:24

Noooooo you are 100% right. Friend past test. In light rain dojng the correct speed she hit a bt of mud car skidded ( we reckon she also braked) car hit the bank and flipped. She is fine car is a right off and it could have been much worse. She was and is a pretty calm, sensible driver as well.

Fakebook · 23/01/2013 19:25

Yanbu. A newly passed driver doesn't usually have a clue about how to handle a car in slippy weather. I'd try to persuade her to stay home or can't she walk to wherever they want to go?

mrsjay · 23/01/2013 19:27

Yanbu let her tut and eye roll least she is safe

mrsjay · 23/01/2013 19:28

Oh BTw dd has been driving over a year her dad took her out the other night to learn to drive in snow she wouldn't before

ClippedPhoenix · 23/01/2013 19:28

YANBU. Someone passing their test just means they are capable of really learning to drive. It takes far more practice after a test to become a good driver.

Put your foot down.

I'd actually aim my points at the boyfriend until he wouldn't dare take your daughter out of the house!

landofsoapandglory · 23/01/2013 19:31

Well I have had no choice but to let my DS1, who passed his test last month, be out in the car because I have been ill and DH has had to go to work, so there was no other way of him getting to college to sit his A levels.

specialsubject · 23/01/2013 19:32

No. This is not a necessary journey. He is an inexperienced driver. He may be a terrible driver like most boys - or he may not. However if he is not a terrible driver he would not be planning to drive unnecessarily in very bad weather.

put your foot down - before he does and they both end up in a tree.

mrsjay · 23/01/2013 19:34

land your sons journey was an essential driving to take a girlfriend out isn't really essential iyswim

landofsoapandglory · 23/01/2013 19:35

DS1 was taken out by DH the very first time it snowed round here after he passed his test, which he took in freezing fog, and my car has traction control so he is quite safe.

landofsoapandglory · 23/01/2013 19:37

I agree MrsJay.

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allo2101 · 23/01/2013 20:18

Thanks everyone - she's staying in and he's coming round and I'm having an early night so they can have the rest of the house to themselves. I agree that getting to college is essential but that's daytime - it's a bit easier if you can see clearly where you're going although still not ideal in this weather

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allo2101 · 23/01/2013 20:19

Thanks everyone - she's staying in and he's coming round and I'm having an early night so they can have the rest of the house to themselves. I agree that getting to college is essential but that's daytime - it's a bit easier if you can see clearly where you're going although still not ideal in this weather

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allo2101 · 23/01/2013 20:19

Sorry posted twice!

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ConfusedPixie · 23/01/2013 20:25

YANBU. I've been driving for two years but Friday was my first time driving in snow. I was fucking terrified. I had no choice and obviously made it home safely but it was awful. My boss gave me a pep talk before I left which actually stopped me doing something stupid (like breaking too sharply) but I would never have been ready for that before now.

Your DDs bf is being stupid for considering driving imo.

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