This thread is now focusing on massive issues- Rape, Violence, obvious hate crimes. These things are shocking and I think, because of that people find ways to rationalize it, and it is easy enough to find examples of shocking things that have happened to men as well. It is not my view that these things are 'equal' but I can see why people want them to be.
If we go back to the casual, the small, the almost insignificant it is harder to rationalize in the same way I think.
This morning I was concentrating on something in the office at work, a man (who is senior to me, but is in no way my line manager), walked into the office said 'Whats the matter with you, I'm the old man, you are meant to be happy'. I was concentrating and writing down my work plan for the day- he was objecting because I hadn't greeted him when he came in. (its a small busy office with 5 staff walking in and out of it at that time of day). I told him I was busy and it wasn't my responsibility to smile and be happy for him, 'but I'm sad, I need cheering up' was his response. I replied that's a shame for you.
10 minutes later outside the office he deals with a teenage girl (he's her form teacher) and she is panicking because she has an exam at the same time as his catch-up session and she needs to miss his lesson, she is nervous talking to him and a bit hyper/fussy. He deals with her and sends her away, saying within earshot of me and and her, 'girls, honestly'. He then turns to me and says 'I suppose you're one of them as well aren't you'.
5 minutes after that it is time to leave for assembly, I've dismissed my form, go into the office to grab my coat- he stands at the office door saying loudly 'Girl!, come on girl, hurry up'. We have plenty of time to get there, we don't have to walk together, but because he wants to I should have known and should be ready.
The tone of all this was 'jokey' in such a way that it is impossible to complain about without appearing to be a miserable bitch. It is misogyny though. Just as it was misogyny yesterday when female students were turned away from the gym because there was noone to supervise them. But the male students of the same age were allowed to stay.
The sequence of events as I have described above what not have happened if I was a man.