To think dh shouldn't have bothered.........

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Dh is self empoyed, this often means going to see potential cuztomers on evenings and weekends. He arranged to see two different customers on opposite sides of incredibly hilly city, even though snow was forecast, amber warning.

He is now stuck in snow and traffic on the far side of town, he will have to negotiate at least 3 very steep hills, he has had nothing to eat since lunch time, phone reception is sketchy.

He has work secured until May, so not desperate to have got either of these jobs.

If he gets ill or injured, or the van gets damaged he won't be able to complete the work he has secured, aibu to think it wasn't worth the risk?

Well I'm sure he's worked that one out for himself by now

This is your way of saying, "I told you so" isn't it?

Poor thing though, he must be frozen.

Worra I'd love to be able to say I told you so, because that would mean he was home and safe, I am starting to panick a bit so sorry if I have come across as arsey .

He is hungry and cold, totally fed up as every side road he had tried is blocked, he's upset he won't be home in time to put dd to bed.

He has plenty of fuel in the van but hasn't moved in over 30 mins.

I feel totally useless, at home with dd, can offer no practical help, don't want to risk his battery by ringing for constant updates, other than have warm clothes and hot food waiting for him, I've no idea what to do.

If he's in a city tbh he should pull up outside a bar or restaurant and go for something to eat. Give the gritters a chance and the traffic a chance to clear. Or even find a room for the night.

You need to stop worrying too ((hugs)) he's not having any fun but he'll be fine.

YNBU to think DH shouldn't have bothered, but don't tell him that, he was only doing his best for his family.

A sympathetic text suggesting he finds a hotel and that you can manage without him for a night, as long as he is safe, might be your best way forward for now.

Yy to suggesting he stops for dinner somewhere. He sounds luffly, trying to look after his family and worrying he won't be home in time.

It must be a worry.

Maybe you can put some PJ's or warm clothes on the radiator for him so he can get changed and warmed up whilst you make him a cuppa?

Do you have any friends local to where he is that could put him up if push comes to shove?

Thanks for your replies, I wouldn't really give it the I told you so act, it's his business, he has a great reputation, and doesn't like to let anyone down, that's what that aibu was referring to, along the lines of ringing your employer and saying you can't make it to work.

He has managed to move bit, unfortunately not near any bars or hotels at the mo, just the cemetry of all places, this is right at the top of one of the steepest hills, so once he had made it down and back up the other side he can try and double back towards town.

Don't panic, he'll be home soon. At least he is in the city and not stranded somewhere rural.

Put DD to bed and put something on the tele to watch with a cuppa.

When I said it's his business I meant as in company not as in mind you're own I can't quite get to grips with the "tone" of posting.