AKissIsNotAContract Tue 22-Jan-13 13:37:37
'I know that when my friends and I were becoming sexually active in our teens, anal sex was not seen as introductory.'
I disagree, my mum who is in her 60s had friends at her school who were advised by their mums to have anal sex to protect their virginity for marriage. I don't think that idea is new.
I do take your point. I know anal has been seen as a contraceptive method since time immemorial. There's that famous scene in the "Valley of the Dolls" set in the 60s which references this exactly, for example.
But I think there's a difference. Anal sex between consulting adults in a relationship as a part of spectrum of sexual activity, both of whom are enjoying it is one thing.
Teenage girls being made to feel pressure to have anal sex because their boyfriends have been exposed to porn and expect it is different. I think sexual activity used to happen along a continuum, starting with kissing, then "heavy petting", then fingers in vaginas, then intercourse, etc.
Porn, with its emphasis on "anything, anytime, with women who are always willing, no discussion, no questions about consent, no questions about the woman's pleasure has changed all that. In porn, the "money shot" is the man coming. Not the woman orgasming, because, frankly, the key thing is male pleasure.
There's been a change now so that anal is expected. Blow jobs are expected. Shaved pubic hair is expected.
Not sure where girls pleasure comes into any of these expectations.