to plan to miss BIL wedding?

[TotallyEggFlipped]

I'm due to give birth to DC2 in July. BIL is getting married in France approx 2 weeks after my due date.

WIBU to plan for me to NOT attend the wedding as things stand at the moment? We would plan for DH to take DD for about 4 days for the wedding and buy their flights, but not buy a flight for me and consider buying fligts last minute if DC2 arrives early and we feel up to it. I really don't think I'd want to take a 2 week old (or younger) on a flight to France, but AIBU? After all, he's only planning to marry once!

I was sure you couldn't fly for 2 weeks but there's a high possibility i have imagined that fact!

I was due with DS on 27/09 several yrs ago and my best friend had planned wedding for 08/09. I felt rotten saying I couldn't go, but it turned out that I was taken in and induced on their wedding day and he was born by EMLCS on 10/09. You're being realistic!

Thanks everyone. We'll just buy flights for DH & DD and hope DC2 arrives in time for DH to go! He says he won't go if he could miss the birth. If the baby does arrive early, then we'll see about getting a passport and flights for us too.

Sounds very sensible OP. Keeps your options open. I'm sure your BIL will understand :)

Not unreasonable at all. I wouldn't go under those circs!

I would just like to make another point:
as someone who has a clotting disorder, clots are still a risk up until ~6w after the baby is born; and flying also increases the risk of making clots.
While it's obviously important for me (with the clotting disorder) to take account of this, it's still worth considering from your POV as well, because a) you might have one and not know, and b) even if you don't (far more likely) your risk of a clot still increases (from hormones and flying), just not anywhere near as much as mine.

And the passport thing.

And the number of germs that you can catch on a plane due to the recirculating air - I'm not taking DS2 home to the UK until he's 6mo, because I have to accommodate school terms now and didn't want to take him before he was 3mo (other option) and had had at least 2 sets of jabs. Probably daft but that was just my feeling.