AIBU to request friend stops talking about shit?

[crapbutgrossedoutfriend]

Name change to protect the innocent.

I have a colleague who has recently returned from maternity leave. I promise, I'm not squeamish but I have been finding her graphic descriptions of her ten month old son's bowels pretty unpleasant.

For some reason, shit seems to be her main topic of conversation, in particular over lunch. She describes what we're eating as it would look after a nappy change, discusses his constipation issue and even when I've seen her with him she talks to him constantly about poo, whether he has poo'd, whether he has a "stinky bum." Videos on Facebook involve these conversations and a lot of her status updates are to do with shit!

It's RANK, and it's really starting to get horrible.

WIBU to tell her to stop, we don't want to know (other people have complained.)

Time and place ...

YANBU

Just say that you find it off putting and grim that she constantly talks about her ds's bowel movements and you don't want to know about it.

If she gets arsey , tough toodles!

Going to have to - absolutely dreading it.

"X, we've noticed you seem preoccupied with shit ..."

YANBU.

Poo conversations are extremely inappropriate at lunchtimes. And rarely appropriate at other times.

Maybe you could start by telling her that talking about poo at lunchtime puts everyone else off their food?

We have, but I thnk it's been done too nicely so it hasn't gone in - either that or she thinks she's impressing us all by how non-squeamish she is. Yuck!

Let her say her bit and then proceed to tell her about your shit, in graphic detail. Go as far as to say "I'm off for one now, shall I shout you in to take a look when I'm done, seeing as your so interested and all that"

Should put a stop to it

If it was me I'd start retaliating with stories of my dog.

Like the time he ate a piece of thread out of his bed and all of his poos got stuck so I put some gloves on and pulled it out.

Or the time he pooed out live worms after a tablet from the vet.

You got any stories like that?

Maybe next time she starts talking about poo at lunch, ask her to stop as it's putting you off your food - then, if she continues talking about poo, stand up and take your lunch to another table?

She'd probably get the message then.

YANBU! I think with the whole baptism of fire that comes with being a new parent people can become desensitised and forget that it not normal to obsess about others bowel movements and the like.

I know someone like this who went into graphic detail over everything. Vomit, nappies, sleep, the birth, exact consumption of milk etc etc et

It's like "I know these moments are of monumental interest to you and probably why has made up your life for the past 9 months but we could not give a shit about your child's shit, and if we did it would only be because we were concerned about our own childs shit and wanted to compare".

I think that's the problem Sasha! People complained to her recently at a restaurant because she was repeatedly "asking" her DS, "HAVE YOU GOT A STINKY BUM? HAVE YOU GOT A STINY BUM?"

I think if I told her shit stories myself she'd be delighted and think we were kindred spirits

Yes the realisation that while your new baby is your everything, your soul, your heart, what makes you get up in the morning, the face that launched a thousand ships yadda yadda yadda.

To everyone else its just another baby, and they don't care.

You do need to tell her though because people will stop interacting with her. She will become one of those women.