To be slightly offended by this comment from my dad.

[Littlebearlost]

I have been stuck in quite a bit over the last few days because of the weather with ds (3.7)
Spoke to my dad on the phone tonight and mentioned that ds was a bit stir crazy, to which my dad said "yes, he is quite demanding. Still, no used complaining now. You're stuck with what you've got."
Aibu to be slightly offended by this? He didn't say it in a jokey way. He meant it!

Well it is true. I'm stuck with my ds too.

YANBU to be irritated about what he said. Cooped up in the house with a stir-crazy kid and then a comment like that? I'd be upset.

You'll get over it, though.

It will be OK.

All 3 year olds are demanding. What would your dad know about parenting a toddler 24/7 unless he has actually done it?

Ignore the daft sod. He probably knows nothing.

Yes, it's one thing for me to think it occasionally, another for someone to say it!

I'm probably a bit sensitive to it because I often think my dad doesn't like my ds very much and it makes me a bit

Well he's right. You can't get a refund on them!

Yes everlong. He meant I'm stuck with ds. In a "you've made your bed you'll have to lie in it" type way.

Hideous comment. I'd be upset too

All 3 year old are demanding some of the time. Most 3 year olds are demanding all of the time. And we are all stuck with them ;)

Don't take it heart - I'm sure your Dad loves him but kids can drive anyone batty. Especially older people who like a quiet life and forget what it was like when theirs were 3.

He would have heard the dial tone if he'd said that to me.

Ds is full on. There is no doubt. He does not sit still and won't play alone for longer than five minutes. My dad often compares him to me unfavourably! He also said a while back that ds was the sort of child that would benefit from a good smack but you can't do that anymore!

Ds isn't naughty. He is bouncy, he is absolutely full of energy but he isn't naughty. He actually hates being told off and gets very upset if he thinks he's done anything wrong.

I think he might just be a bit too energetic for my dad! Ds is also extremely big for his age (in 6-7 clothes) and so takes up a lot of physical energy if he needs picking up for any reason.

He's probably totally forgotten what a completely normal 3 year old boy is like. Generally a pita...

Was your mom a sahm if so he may have been of the generation that did little of the nitty gritty of child care.

Ignore him and perhaps keep your distance for a while. If he asks then you can say you felt that your ds irritated him so you wanted to give him a break! Bet he will be more thoughtful in the future.

Yes my mom was a sahm. And I have no brothers so he only has me to go by. And obviously I was an angel.

YANBU - but you need to get him back for that comment!

Something like - "You know, he's developing a personality much like yours, dad. Ah well, I'm stuck with you too, aren't I?!'

yes go with what DIY said

Actually when I told my grandad I was pg he looked at ds3 and said what are you going to do with this one send him back I said!

Ds3 had just been having a bit of a tantrum but grandad isn't usually so rude

He was probably just joking. I'm
sure he didn't mean to offend you.

He definitely wasn't joking. I'm certain of it. I wouldn't mind if he had been.