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AIBU?

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AIBU to turn down this party invite for my children?

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CrapBag · 20/01/2013 22:29

A friend of mine has invited my children to her DS' party. My DS is 3 years younger and my DD is the same age but neither of my children see my friends children as they don't go to the same schools and we don't tend to socialise with the children. My children have known hers in the past but not anymore. DD doesn't actually like her DS, I don't know why but as they don't see each other I don't push it.

It isn't a small party, its for 60 children! She is inviting everyone and it is clear her DS hasn't has anything to do with the invite list, I am sure he wouldn't include the children of his mums friends who he never has anything to do with.

I don't want to take the children. Its going to be chaotic, my DD doesn't want to go, DS is too young to know either way and it isn't long after my DS's birthday and I would quite like to do something that weekend.

DH says I have to accept. I don't know why. WIBU to politely turn down the invite on the basis that we already have plans (I will tell her that we have)? I haven't RSVP'd yet as I haven't had the invite but I know we will get one as my friend told me.

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LemonBreeland · 20/01/2013 22:31

YANBU you don't have to attend every party you are invited to. And 60 children sounds awful.

DeepRedBetty · 20/01/2013 22:32

No, yanbu. I'd do exactly the same. Might be good to come up with a firm plan for your children to get dh off your case though.

WorraLiberty · 20/01/2013 22:34

God this is such a non issue

Why is your DH making it into one by saying you have to accept

That's just bizarre

LadyWidmerpool · 20/01/2013 22:35

Your DH can take the children and you can have some you time. Problem solved!

CrapBag · 20/01/2013 22:46

I didn't think of that Lady, what a great idea. Grin

Worra he seems to think that I am sort of disengaging myself from my group of friends if I turn down party invites! Ok then....

I tend to see my friends as people to socialise with now, not just mums where we all met at toddler group. Our kids are at school now so I don't automatically think of them as friends when they don't even see each other.

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LePetitPrince · 20/01/2013 22:53

I had this with a good friend. Hers is 2 years older than my oldest which is poles apart when young. So one year I just said that we wouldn't be coming as my kids didn't know anybody and she didn't have to feel obliged to ask them. Lo and behold, we didn't get an invitation again, we can talk about our parties without having to feel bad etc.

Of course, it is only relevant while kids are young. Otherwise they pick a few close friends and that's that. Sixty is a BIG party!

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 20/01/2013 22:53

Is it not up to you how much you "engage with your group of friends" then? Hmm Is your DH a bit weird?
Tell him you have lots of much nicer friends these days, they live in your computer and drink Bailey's copious amounts of gin through straws and eat cake and hold hands a lot Wink

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