To let ds fully indulge in his penchant for all things pink and glittery?

[lecce]

He is 3.6 and for some time now has been mad for all of the above. He has a poundland tutu he loves to wear and a pink garland thing, also from the wonderful poundland, that he is similarly attached to. When we are in the supermarket he asks for pink tops, especially those with glitter on but, while I am happy to do the tutu-garland type thing, I draw the line at actually buying him clothes that have been made for girls. Tbh, this is really a moot point as, as a ds2, his clothes are nearly all hand-me-downs anyway.

The other day, in the queue in Next, he was asking for a set of glittery hair-slides. His hair is gorgeous, blond and curly and long enough to take a clip. I said no because I pretty much always do when they ask for stuff while we're queueing but it got me thinking - would that be a step too far? I would love to get him some as a little surprise treat but am I taking advantage of this stage he's in and will he hate me when he's 15 and sees all the photos of himself in tutus etc?

We are moving soon and we've been discussing his and his brother's new bedrooms. Ds1 wants his painted green and ds2, predictably, has said he wants pink. Will that be a step too far? Will it make him a laughing stock on playdates? It may seem trivial but it will be hard to say no as he will be well aware that ds1 has had the colour he asked for so will wonder why he can't. It's just a colour, right? But I don't know anyone else whose son has a pink bedroom...

He has also had his head turned by glittery hand-bags, barbie dolls (No.Way.Ever.) and nearly walked into a lamp-post in the park the other day eyeing up a little girl's deluxe pink toy buggy.

I am probably over-thinking it all (dh thinks so) but I am worried about how it will look to him when he's older and wondering how it will look to his peers when he is slightly older than he is now.

DS1 (now 6 foot tall strapping rugby player) had a pair of barbie wellies at that age (inherited from a friend who'd outgrown them). He loved them until some older boys teased him in the park for wearing girls' clothes . He also requested a barbie for Christmas that year (we bought him one).

As others have said, it's just a phase. Make the most of it before the gender stereotyping kicks on (I have 2 DS's, and we are just about out the other side, but it's been a funny few years).

I think it is perfectly fine too! I had a conversation with friends the other day who both have DSs whilst I have 2 DDs. I handed back some pink weaning pots that I'd borrowed and the friend I'd borrowed them from and she said that whilst they made perfect snack pots for nursery, she didn't like her DS to take them because she was worried he'd get teased. Other friend agreed. I was stunned. It's a piece of plastic food storage! When I asked both friends to explain citing the fact that neither of my DDs are particularly decked out in pink, the answer was that it's 'different' for boys.

Pah! Get him glittery hairslides and indulge him. Historically, pink was for boys.

Let him wear what he wants to and play with what he wants to.

I wouldn't do the walls pink though, or green. I'd choose a neutral colour for all the rooms and the accessorise in the colour they want e.g. pink/green rug, bed set, light, cushions, curtains etc.

my ds (2.4) has lots of pink stuff, a barbie & clothes for it, dolls, he had a pink dolls pram, all sorts.

one of his faves at the mo is a kids handbag that's a poodle, covered in lilac glittery sequins (took him an age to choose between it & the pink one)

in the nicest way possible, who cares? as you said, it's only a colour & if the wee one likes it, they like it .